Many parents are very helpless when facing "Buddhist" children, because such children are not interested in anything and always have a indifferent attitude, which makes parents very angry. In this case, parents must actively guide and help children to adjust this state as soon as possible.
Children don't care what to do
1. Change the concept of family education. Parents should know that it doesn't matter what children become, generally because parents are too concerned and take their children's affairs on their own shoulders and don't let them take responsibility. At this time, I felt tired, bored and worried, and blamed the children for their lack of responsibility.
Therefore, parents need to change their way of family education after reflecting on their own educational behavior. Understand that many of the children's problems are caused by their parents' own problems. Parents should gradually avoid making arrangements instead, learn to understand and love children from the perspective of children, and cultivate children with the goal of cultivating qualified social people.
2. Don't indulge, establish children's sense of rules. Fully trusting and letting go of children, and paying attention to their free will and independent thinking, does not mean that children can go their own way, nor does it mean that they despise and abandon rules, but allow children to have limited freedom. Parents should clarify the scope of autonomy for children. What can be appropriately relaxed, what needs to be restricted, and what must be strictly observed?
3. Appropriately praise children. In the process of children's growth, parents should praise their children appropriately, which is also conducive to stimulating their enterprising spirit. Everyone has self-esteem and competitiveness. When children have made certain progress, they will hope to be praised by their parents or others. So when the child has made progress, parents should also seize the opportunity to praise the child.
When children are recognized and praised by their parents, it can not only satisfy their self-esteem and self-confidence, but also help stimulate their enterprising spirit and motivation. Drops of water can wear away stones. Parents' praise of their children accumulated over time is also the key to promoting their children to make great progress.
4. Set an example. For children, their parents' behavior is a mirror. "Teaching by example is better than words". If you want your children to have good initiative, parents should first set an example for their children to learn from. Excellent parents can stimulate their children's initiative well. Therefore, parents should also pay attention to their own words and deeds in daily life and set a good example for their children to learn from.
The reason why children don't care about anything
1. Parents are too controlling. Parents are too strong, say nothing, and have a strong desire for control. In the period of children's self-consciousness awakening, it is easy to suppress the children's right to free choice. In the case of long-term denial, children will slowly start to give up their choice and start to like to talk about "nothing, everything, I'm free".
2. Parents themselves did not lead by example. Give the child a bad example. Many of the shortcomings of children are reflected by their parents. The parents themselves are happy with the situation, and the children will also feel lazy.
3. They did not set goals for their children, nor instilled in them the sense of bearing the consequences of lazy habits. Children have no training in self-control, just like a blank sheet of paper, so parents and teachers need to educate, supervise, give goals, and guide them to achieve them.
It doesn't matter what influence children will have
1. The desire to win or lose is too weak. If children don't care about everything, they just want to keep themselves in a relaxed state and have their own views on things, then they will not have a sense of competition naturally. Although this will put them in a safe circle, it will hinder their progress and make their life mediocre.
2. When the pressure suddenly hit, the children could not bear it. The psychological acceptance of passive and active facing pressure is different. To actively pursue a goal, pressure can be turned into power. When passive life pressure comes like a dark cloud, many children under Buddhism education may collapse. The habit of having pressure is more conducive for children to overcome when facing other difficulties.
