In daily life, we often see that some children have the habit of petty theft, always taking something that does not belong to them or taking money from their parents. In the face of such children, how should parents educate their children, which can not only change their children's bad behavior habits, but also not hurt their self-esteem.
How to educate children to be petty thieves
1. Don't let the word "steal" ruin the baby. When encountering such problems, don't directly and rudely label children as "stealing" things, because children are vague about many things in their early growth, and can't use the adult's thinking mode to ask children. The children had no concept of "stealing" at all, and he did not realize the seriousness of what he did.
2. Ask why the child did it. After the child acts like a thief, parents should not rush to teach the child a lesson, but first ask why the child did so.
Some children didn't mean to steal things, but did something wrong because of practical reasons. For example, children may do something wrong when they know their parents won't buy for them and they don't have enough money and want it. Parents should distinguish between the good and bad intentions of their children, and then adopt different educational methods accordingly.
3. Parents help children make up for the current situation. When a child's petty theft is found, parents should not rush to help the child bear the consequences, but try to make the child take responsibility, so that the child can understand the disadvantages of petty theft.
If the other party asks for compensation and an apology, the parents can help the child to make up for the situation. The money can be provided by the parents, but the apology must be made by the children themselves. Only when a child learns a lesson from this incident can he understand that his parents are really good for him.
4. Guide children to reflect on changes. Parents can let children learn to reflect on their own mistakes and learn to take the initiative to correct themselves by giving examples of celebrities' deeds and other methods. When children's bad habits have been significantly changed, parents should not hesitate to praise their children, so that children can be proud of their good habits.
What's the reason for children's petty theft
1. Be greedy for small gains. Many people have the mentality of being greedy, and children will also have it. Stealing something away without spending money will bring a different experience to the child's heart. And the child may think that he has mastered this skill after several times of experience. If you let this psychological development go, your child will become even worse.
2. Know that parents will not buy. Some children always like new toys or beautifully packaged snacks, etc. They may have asked their parents for them before, but their parents simply do not agree, which will disappoint the children. In order to satisfy their possessiveness, children will get what they want through some inappropriate ways.
3. I have no pocket money. The last situation is that the child intended to buy with his own money, but because the child did not have enough pocket money, the original purchase plan failed. At this time, the child is not willing to wait until the next time to buy. He may steal something to take possession of his favorite items.
What are the effects of parents' improper handling of children's petty theft
1. To ignore it is to connive at mistakes. If parents find that their children are petty thieves, but they do not timely carry out corresponding discipline and guidance, children will think that this is the tacit consent and encouragement of parents to their own stealing behavior. With the growth of age, this attitude of getting something for nothing will make children more bold, which will not only affect the moral character of children, but also may make children's life slowly deviate.
2. Simple beating and scolding can easily stimulate rebellious psychology. If the parents find the child stealing, they will beat him up in anger and ask him to promise not to do it again. However, beating and scolding can only let the child know that it is wrong, but he does not know what is wrong, and how to solve similar problems in the future.
This will not only hurt the child's self-esteem, but also stimulate the child's rebellious psychology. Next time, he will choose to steal. After stealing, he will fight with parents to avoid punishment by lying.