Family is very important for children. It is the first "school" for children. Every step of their growth is deeply influenced by family education; Every parent will encounter different problems in the process of education. For example, children do not participate in group activities. Only by finding the reasons behind them can we find solutions.
How to deal with children who are unwilling to participate in group activities
The first step is to communicate with children.
First of all, we should listen to his inner thoughts. We should understand what specific regulations the teacher has put forward for them. How does he feel that these regulations limit his freedom? If children are allowed to organize their own activities, how should they regulate them.
In this process, the child can feel empathy through several rounds of repeated questions and answers. Maybe he can understand that there must be some regulations for safety.
Second, if the child is young, try to use some details to make him eager instead of cajoling him.
For example, you can tell him that you can catch grasshoppers on this spring outing; You can play games on the lawn when you participate in this spring outing; Join this spring outing, you can see how flowers and plants grow in nature, and try to put forward some details for him to yearn for.
Instead of lying to him, he said, "Go ahead, it's fun. Go ahead, it's fun.". Through these details, he will have a sense of picture in his brain. As time passes, he may yearn for this spring outing.
Third, remember not to try to persuade or even force him.
Such children tend to be assertive, and the more you persuade them, the more they will stick to it.
It's really not like going. It's OK. After all, it's just playing. It's not a big event in principle. But after the event, pay attention to bringing him some photos of his classmates when they went to play, so that he can know more about the real situation at that time. Maybe the child's judgment will change next time.
Fourth, we should reflect on how much freedom we give children.
To let the father and children interact more, of course, it is not to deny the importance of the interaction between mother and children, but not to let the father participate in this process, because the father's playing method emphasizes more authority, which is different from the mother's way.
There are reasons why children don't like group activities
Cause 1: timid and introverted
Some babies are naturally timid and introverted. From the perspective of nature, the temperament characteristics of timid children are: quiet, gentle, shy, submissive, tolerant, cautious, weak, and few active requests. These characteristics all belong to introverted personality, and most of them are inherited, and nature is not easy to change. For such children, we should be more tolerant and accepting, encourage them in everything, and affirm their independence, courage and promising. The experience "capital" belongs to children only when the practice process brings them true feelings.
Reason 2: unhappy things in kindergarten
The baby doesn't like going to kindergarten, which may be because the kindergarten has brought him some unhappy memories and feelings, so the baby avoids going to kindergarten or contacting people he doesn't like. Parents try to communicate with teachers to see when the baby started this situation and whether something happened to make the baby unhappy in kindergarten. Parents can also chat more with their babies to learn more about their children's psychological feelings and find out the cause of the problem.
Reason 3: dependence on family
Some babies don't want to go to kindergarten, which may be because they are always the little emperor at home, stretching out their clothes and opening their mouths, while they have to live a collective life at school, losing the sense of superiority at home. The baby has been living in a small family before going to school. The life circle is too small and the contact with outsiders is less. Therefore, the baby is more dependent and cannot adapt to the environment independently. In kindergarten, facing many children and new teachers, they lack a sense of security, so they are at a loss and become timid and introverted.
Reason 4: Do not know how to integrate into the circle and lack communication skills
Some babies are introverted originally. Maybe parents have more restrictions on their children's daily life, which makes them seldom get along with other children for fun. Or parents teach children little about making friends, and children do not know how to integrate into the group and how to interact with others. Therefore, even though children have the heart to live a collective life, they do not know the skills and often encounter difficulties, which makes them gradually resist the collective activities in kindergarten.
What parents should do if children do not participate in group activities
1. If the child has a problem, let the child say it instead of holding it in his heart
Maybe the problem is solved by saying it out. Sometimes children just want to talk, just want to be coquettish and so on.
2. Talk to your child more and ask about her/his classmates you know
Some children are unwilling to tell their parents about their own affairs, but they are willing to say more to their classmates. Sometimes you will hear useful information for their children.
3. More observation and sports with children when free
By observing children, we can know their psychological trends. Generally, children's emotions will be reflected on their faces. Therefore, by observing children more, we can know their current situation.
The sports meet will shorten the distance between people, accompany children to do more outdoor sports, games, etc., and the parent-child relationship will also be better! When exercising, you can secrete more dopamine, which is the source of happiness!
