When it comes to rebellious children, many parents are worried. At this time, children like to do everything with their parents. No matter what their parents say, they just don't listen to them and refuse to communicate with them. Many times, parents feel helpless when facing such children and don't know what to do.
What to do if children rebel and do not communicate with their parents
1. Listen to your child's feelings. When parents encounter children's rebellion, disobedience, non cooperation and non communication, they should patiently listen to their children's feelings and give full understanding and support. In this way, children will feel that their ideas are valued and they are more willing to communicate with their parents. After being approved by parents, children may not be so rebellious, at least not more.
2. Parents should take the initiative to communicate. It can be achieved through some daily communication, such as asking children "What's new today?" every day. Ask children to tell their own thoughts and feelings.
3. Don't shout at children. Parents should become emotional coaches to guide their children instead of being controlled by their children's negative emotions. No matter how many things your child does that make you angry, parents should learn to control their own negative emotions, rather than yelling at their children emotionally, and not reduce themselves to the level of a child's immature emotional level.
4. Provide a good communication environment. In order to make children more willing to communicate with their parents, parents need to provide a good communication environment for their children, for example, to create a safe, warm and comfortable family atmosphere; Give children enough space and time to express their feelings and ideas freely; Encourage children to participate in various social activities and team sports, and develop children's cooperation and communication skills.
Why Adolescent Children Feel Difficult to Communicate
Adolescent children are in a special period of physical and emotional development. They have their own little secrets and are unwilling to share them with others; They also gradually become independent and want to prove themselves, thus getting praise and affirmation from their parents, but the results are often unsatisfactory.
At this time, parents will have some criticism or extreme words about their children, ignoring that their children's original intention is good, hurting their self-esteem, and discouraging their enthusiasm, which will lead to children's unwillingness to communicate with their parents.
Many parents expect their children to study hard and improve their academic performance, so they will force their children to behave.
For example, sending children to cram school, constantly squeezing children's time, making children feel very stressed and at a loss. Then, children will naturally refuse to communicate with their parents, because they feel that their parents only know how to oppress and preach themselves.
The children are unwilling to communicate with their parents. Maybe the parents have done these three things
1. Less concern for children. Now the pressure of social competition is growing. If parents do not focus on their work, they will be easily eliminated by the society. Under such pressure, parents are easy to reduce their concern for children because of their work.
Some parents even think that teenagers can handle their own study and life independently. As parents, it is enough to provide good material conditions for children.
2. Too much attention is paid to children's achievements, while ignoring their emotional needs. In real life, we can often see that some parents constantly take their children to various cram schools, but the children's performance seems to be completely unaware of their parents' intentions. Not only do they often sleep in class, but they often skip classes and contradict teachers.
3. Too strong, often impose their own ideas on children. The child is also an independent individual, but parents always force their children to do what they like in the name of being good for their children. Parents are indeed rich in social experience, but their feelings and preferences can not replace children's feelings and preferences, so if you want children not to rebel, you must learn to respect children's ideas.