Making mistakes is a behavior that everyone of us will have, especially children, who will do many things that touch the bottom line of their parents. But many parents will take the form of beating and scolding to make them realize their mistakes, but the result will make the problem more serious.
What parents should do when children make mistakes
1. Don't beat or scold children, and really pay attention to their emotions. Beating and scolding children is the lowest education method. I think this is only temporary, but for the sake of the long-term development of the child, every parent should stop this practice immediately and help the child's heart and long-term development.
If children live in a family that has been beaten or scolded for a long time, parents often only point out their contributions and are not sure of their advantages. In the long run, they will gradually become suspicious of themselves and think that they are a person who can accomplish nothing.
2. Give children independent thinking space, so that they can learn to recognize their own mistakes. Children's growth process is often not smooth. This will make them experience many hardships, setbacks in learning, quarrels with their parents, and emotional changes.
This is the only way to grow up. Parents should not interfere with their children's growth in everything. They should give them care while allowing them some independent thinking space so that they can learn to learn from their mistakes.
3. Pay attention to protecting children's self-esteem. Some children are unwilling to admit their mistakes after doing something wrong, because they are afraid that more people will know about it and that everyone will laugh at them. When encountering this kind of situation, the mother should be careful to deal with it. Don't try to be quick with words and satirize and humiliate the child in public, so as to avoid hurting the baby's self-esteem.
4. If the child no longer makes repeated mistakes, appropriate praise and rewards can be given. A good education should have a clear distinction between rewards and punishments. If children can remember their own mistakes, they will not repeat them. Parents should give encouragement in words and deeds and appropriate rewards. This can make children more confident.
In the process of educating children, in addition to allowing children to make mistakes, what other issues need attention
1. Avoid harsh reprimands. Parents can understand the anger of children who often act as demons, but they can't vent it at will. Because a rude reprimand will not only hurt the child's psychology for a long time, but also cause the child's rebellious psychology.
2. Give comfort and encouragement appropriately. When children make mistakes and bear the consequences, they will inevitably feel depressed. At this time, parents can give appropriate comfort to help children adjust their emotions and face the consequences of mistakes rationally.
3. When a child does something wrong, his mother should be calm. The baby's unwillingness to admit his mistake is probably due to his fear of punishment, which is summarized from his previous experience. The nagging and reprimanding cannot fundamentally solve the problem, but will lead him to seek various ways to cover up his mistakes.
Therefore, when a child does something wrong, his mother should treat him with a calm mind, communicate with him calmly, fully understand the process of the matter, and then think with him about how to remedy it and put it into action.
What are the effects of parents' constant scolding on children who make mistakes
1. Let the parent-child relationship gradually alienate. Parents should not think that children's hearts will grow stronger with their growth. Children's minds are always more careful and sensitive, and they will want parents' understanding and recognition. When a child makes a mistake, the child is more likely to expect parents to care about what the child does, rather than scold the reason for what the child does.
Parents should pay more attention to the children's emotional changes at any time, timely appease the children, and do not treat the children with scolding education, so as to avoid the children becoming disgusted with their parents, which will lead to more estrangement between parents and children.
2. Affect children's future development. When parents like to scold and stick to their children's right and wrong, then children will take such behavior as parents as the object of imitation. When parents make mistakes in the future, they will hold on to their parents' mistakes and scold them in a scolding way and attitude, giving parents a sense of no big or small, which will make children become a person who does not know how to respect others, And people who speak without discretion.
