The rebellious period is an important stage in the child's growth process. The child's life will experience three rebellious periods, of which the rebellious period in youth needs special guidance and attention from parents. The children in this period are irritable and pursue independence, and will not return if they are not careful. Therefore, in this period, parents should pay more attention to children and establish good communication with them, Never nag around children.
There are several stages in the rebellious period of children
The rebellious period of children can generally be divided into three stages: the rebellious period of babies, the rebellious period of children, and the rebellious period of youth.
At the age of 2-3, the rebellious behavior is the performance of the first rebellious period in life, called "baby rebellious period"
When you are 6-8 years old, you will come to the second rebellious period in your life, which is called "the rebellious period of children"
12-18 years old is the third rebellious period in life, which is the most common known "youth rebellious period".
Among them, the rebellious period of youth is the most difficult stage for children to manage. This stage is mainly due to abnormal endocrine metabolism, which leads to some rebellious feelings and personality of children.
Children in the rebellious period of youth begin to gradually establish their own outlook on life and values, which may conflict with their parents' ideas and cause rebellion. Parents should give more psychological care to their children, not just their children's achievements. In addition, when dealing with children, we can communicate with them as adults.
What should children do when they are young and rebellious
1. Establish good communication: establish good communication and trust relationship with children, understand their thoughts and feelings, and guide them to treat puppy love correctly.
2. Full respect and equal communication: first of all, make sure that children have their own thoughts and views, which is a sign of growing up and maturity. Explain that everyone's perspective on things is different from children, so the conclusions are different. You can discuss and communicate with each other, so that children feel that they are respected and valued.
3. Give correct guidance: It can popularize knowledge about love, marriage and responsibility to children, help them understand the advantages and disadvantages of puppy love, and guide them to look at emotional problems correctly.
4. Seek common ground while reserving differences and seek consensus: take the initiative to expose my adolescence to my children, tell them that I once had youth and ignorance, like all beautiful things, including my attractive friends of the opposite sex, and full of longing for love. Let children open their hearts and be willing to express their inner thoughts. When the child is no longer defensible and is willing to tell you everything, she can guide him in a way that she can accept.
5. Accompanying and growing up: parents must spare time to accompany their children more, such as arranging more colorful weekends or holidays, traveling, climbing mountains, and participating in public welfare activities with their children, so as to expand their children's interests and horizons, and enable them to learn and develop in a diversified way.
How to communicate with the rebellious children? Parents should learn these five points
1. Keep calm and understanding: When communicating with children in the rebellious period, parents should keep calm and understanding. Don't be too emotional or arguing, but try to understand your child's views and feelings.
2. Respect for children's independence: children in the rebellious period are eager for independence and autonomy, and parents should respect their independence. Give them some decision-making power and freedom, so that they feel respected and valued.
3. Avoid criticism and blame: In communication, parents should avoid using critical language and blaming children. Instead, use words of encouragement and support to help children build positive self-esteem and self-confidence.
4. Refine the language, don't talk: When communicating with children, you should grasp the time of conversation, and never nag. In the process of communication, simply explain the communication content to the child directly. Excessive nagging will make communication ineffective. At the same time, parents need to change the education method of "talking without doing", try to avoid pale preaching, but practice by example to set an example for children.
5. Encouraging children's hobbies: Many parents often persist in their own opinions when facing their children's hobbies, thinking that it is useless for children to learn these things, and it is also useless to learn those things. In fact, this is wrong. We should encourage children's hobbies, rather than judging them by their own likes and dislikes. If Beethoven's parents think that Beethoven's piano learning is useless and kills his hobbies, Will Beethoven become a world famous pianist?
