When children grow up, they will inevitably make all kinds of mistakes. Not only children but also adults will make mistakes. No one is perfect. The most important thing for a child to make a mistake is how the parents deal with it. A good way of dealing with it can help the child grow up healthily. A bad way of dealing with it may have some bad effects on the child.
How to educate children when they do wrong things
1. Communicate effectively with children. Reasoning is the best way to cultivate the child's habit of listening quietly, establish good communication, and correct his wrong behavior, but it needs to pay attention to certain skills. The communication between adults and children is mostly just negotiation, pleading and nagging. We will find that it is not easy to communicate with children, but don't beat or scold children easily. Children, like adults, need self-esteem.
2. Teach children to take responsibility. If a child makes a mistake, encourage him to take responsibility bravely. Parents and children can learn how to take responsibility by making up for their mistakes together. In addition, in the process of criticism, the child can be allowed to explain the event, but also let him understand that the explanation is not to shirk responsibility, but to let him know where he is wrong.
3. When a child makes a mistake, you may as well go up and hug the child, and then ask what happened to the child, and you can't do that in the future. But more importantly, teach children how to do in the future. The advantage of this is that it not only soothes the child's negative emotions, but also makes the child understand that the most important thing after making a mistake is not to admit it, but how to make up for it and avoid repeating it later.
4. Take reasonable punishment measures. The most useful punishment for children is not to fight, but to restrict their freedom and activities. For example, if they are disrespectful to their elders, they should punish them to read stories or books about respecting their elders, and then punish them to write their feelings after reading. Finally, they should tell them why they should respect their elders and what they are going to do in the future. Through this process, they will change their minds and deeply realize their wrong behavior.
5. Don't lie. When children do wrong, they use various lies to escape. Parents should let their children understand that lies can not solve any problems, but only allow errors to accumulate. The parents' rude language and violence will not only make the children better, but also make the children hate their parents and stay away, thus affecting the parent-child relationship.
How parents deal with children's mistakes
1. Protect the short. Short minding parents dote on their children and have no principles. They are tolerant of all their children's mistakes and laugh them off. They even think that the children's mistakes are caused by others.
2. Laissez faire discipline. When a child makes mistakes and cries, laissez faire parents will say, let him cry. The child is healthy after crying. Don't care about him. The result of this approach is that children lack a sense of security. For the child, he has already cried on the ground, but his parents are still indifferent. After that, the child dare not trust the love from his parents.
Effective education methods for parents whose children make mistakes
1. Learn to handle problems calmly. Many parents get angry after their children make mistakes, and even some parents may hit their children. In fact, it is wrong to do so. When children make mistakes, we should calm down first, and then start to solve problems when we are calm enough. We should reason with children and tell them where they are wrong, What should I do next time I encounter this problem.
2. Empathize and understand the motivation of the child to do this, and analyze the advantages and disadvantages with the child. Children's mistakes may be unintentional, and some may be caused by misunderstanding. Therefore, before criticizing the child, we should first understand the reason of the matter, and understand whether the child does so unintentionally or intentionally. If it is unintentional, let the child apologize, and pay attention to things in the future. But if it is a misunderstanding, it is intentional. Parents should be more careful to deal with it and avoid touching the self-esteem of children.
3. Comfort the child's mood. If the child has realized that he or she has made a mistake and is afraid or nervous, the parents should learn to comfort the child's feelings, and then analyze with the child where things are wrong, find out the reason for doing something wrong, and then make remedial measures on the premise that it can be remedied.
