It must be wrong for children to beat their parents. Parents must pay attention to their children's behavior in this matter. 13-year-old boys are in the early stage of youth rebellion. At this time, children tend to become disobedient and confront their parents. In view of this situation, parents must reasonably guide their children.
How to deal with the 13 year old son's rebellious attack on his parents
1. Stop all kinds of oppression on children, including "soft" coercion. For example, do not always strongly demand how children should be treated, or they will not listen to their views. Everyone should be calm, everyone should listen to others' opinions equally if there are contradictions, and small problems should be tolerated. Slowly develop the habit of solving problems through consultation on an equal basis.
2. Refuse to use violence against violence. After things calm down, analyze and reason with him, and tell him that no matter what his father does is right or wrong, he should not hit people. As a parent, you should put down your airs, treat him as a friend, have an equal relationship with him, communicate more, pay more attention, and understand the child's heart.
3. Try to think from the perspective of children. Because parents and children are different in age, there will be some generation gap between parents and children. This generation gap will affect parents' understanding of children. So parents usually want children to do more communication and understanding, and look at problems from the perspective of children, so that they can more deeply understand children's situation and feelings, and also better understand children's preferences. In this way, parents can grasp and solve their children's problems faster and better, so as not to let their children "sink" deeper.
4. When you understand your child's ideas and what he or she does, you must ask for his or her advice. Don't let your children do what parents think they should do. Over time, children will naturally have rebellious psychology and resistance. If the child raises an objection, the parents should explore the reason why you should not do it.
5. Rationalize with children, so that children can understand the "advantages and disadvantages" more clearly. Spread positive energy to children and let them love learning.
The reason why the 13-year-old son rebelled against his parents
The family relationship is incomplete. It is difficult for single parent families and families with busy parents to give children more comprehensive education and care. When children grow up in such families, they will gradually lose their sense of security, so they will look for something to fill these gaps, such as the Internet. Therefore, in this state, children will naturally shield their guidance and education from outsiders, and will feel upset, resulting in some violence.
The behavior of parents is actually a copy and paste version of parents, and their cognition and imitation are very fast. If parents educate their children with violent behavior, they will think that this is the right way to deal with problems in their growth and learning.
The connivance of the elders ignored the early performance of the rebellious children on some issues of children's education. For example, we often see children do wrong, and parents do not face up to the mistakes at the first time, but take the excuse of "the children are still young and not sensible" to protect them. Parents' indulgence and forgiveness of principled errors will make children more demanding. Once this rule is broken, children may behave wildly when they are young. When they are 13 or 14 years old, they will do many extraordinary things. The protection and connivance without bottom line is the necessary prerequisite for "cultivating" rebels.
Life pressure is high. Now the child's life pressure is very high. When he is angry outside, he dare not send out. When he gets home, he is angry with his parents. At this time, he will attack and scold his parents, which is related to the parents' ordinary education. His heart is too high, but his ability is not high, and his family cannot satisfy him. He feels inferior to others. Such a child is very dangerous and may break the jar.