A person who is too selfish will never have a good interpersonal relationship. Therefore, parents should conduct moral education for their children when they are young. They should correctly guide their children to learn friendship and humility, so that they can become a person who knows how to share and have a good moral character.
What to do if the child is too selfish
1. If you make a mistake, you must apologize. Does making mistakes and apologizing have anything to do with selfish discipline? There are close connections. When children know what is wrong, they will consider whether it will affect others when doing things later, and will judge whether they should do it in advance. After they form the habit, they will only make fewer and fewer mistakes.
2. Know what is young and old. There are six adults around a child in the family, so the child certainly thinks that he is the center. So, teach the child what is the difference between the young and the old. If there is no such rule, parents should expect the child to be filial to himself in the future.
3. Learn to share without asking. Parents can encourage sharing, so that children can understand the fun of sharing, but do not force children to share in real time. Children should also have their own rights, but one thing should be clear. The purpose of learning to share is to develop children's social skills, so it is not necessary to demand too much.
4. Try to suffer losses and setbacks. Children centered families never let their children suffer a little injustice. This overprotection of children does not allow their children to achieve real growth. Therefore, there is no harm in occasionally letting children suffer a little loss. For example, it is good to refuse children's demands, from obedience to selective rejection, so that children can understand that not all requirements in the world should be met.
5. Sincerely express gratitude. Children will say thank you. Some are sincere in thanking, and some are just responding to parents' requirements. The purpose of learning to thank is to let children understand that not everyone should do anything for him. Children should first thank their parents and family for all their gains.
What causes children to be selfish
1. Children have a strong sense of self. All children have a strong sense of self. If parents do not guide them correctly, children's sense of self will expand even more. Everything is based on their own interests, which means they are selfish.
2. Parents' wrong education. Parents' educational methods are wrong. Some parents usually scold and satirize their children after their children make mistakes. When children are attacked by their parents, they are afraid and hurt. They will hide and suffer silently, and then become selfish.
3. The family dotes too much. The family dotes on their children too much. All good things are given to children first or left to them. Children will enjoy this privilege and do not know how to share. Over time, the selfish nature of children will be exposed.
4. Parents' role models. If the parents are also selfish, the children are naturally selfish under the influence of their parents. Therefore, if parents want their children to be unselfish, they should set a good example and not let children learn bad words and deeds from their parents.
5. The special reason of the only child. Nowadays, most children are only children, and they are loved by everyone. Parents will also provide the best conditions for their children. No matter how much they eat or wear, they will try their best not to mistreat their children. Naturally, they have developed their selfish personality, and it is difficult to change it.
How to let children get rid of selfish psychology
Let children know that selfishness is bad. Parents should let their children know that selfishness is bad. Selfish children will not be liked by others, and they are easy to be loved by others. Nobody likes to make friends with selfish people, let alone play together, and they will be lonely.
Parents should learn to refuse their children's unreasonable demands. Selfish children have a lot of demands on their parents, but they don't consider their parents' ideas and economic ability, which often brings great burden to their parents. However, parents always satisfy their children, only connive at their children's selfish behavior, which will make them more and more selfish. Parents should learn to refuse their children's unreasonable needs and let them know how to spend reasonably.
Let children learn to get along with others and share. Selfish children usually don't have many friends and don't know how to get along with others. Parents should encourage their children to make more friends, communicate with others and learn to express themselves in words. In addition, children will also know how to share when they get along with friends, so that children will not be selfish.
