Many parents will tell their children in the process of educating them that they cannot bully others on their own initiative. If others bully you, you must bully them back. However, some children are introverted and cowardly. When they are bullied by others, they dare not fight back and tell their parents when they return home, which makes them very helpless.
What if the child is beaten and dare not fight back
1. Don't blame. When a child is beaten and does not fight back, he must not be blamed. Most children who do not fight back think that it is a bad behavior and unreasonable to take the initiative. Therefore, it is necessary to first confirm the child's way, then communicate with the child about the reason for the other party's action, and then tell the child about a reasonable way to deal with it.
2. Ask the child how to solve it. When encountering the phenomenon of the other party's hands, you must remember to ask the reason why the child does not fight back. If the child thinks there is a more reasonable solution, then you can help the child solve the problem in the right way, so that the child can understand the results of different ways of solving the problem, and then help the child find confidence.
3. Conduct a scenario at home. Many parents will think that it is embarrassing to talk about being bullied with their children, so they generally do not discuss it with their children. In fact, it is easy for children to have no concept of "being bullied" if they don't talk, and they don't know how to respond to the beating. So parents can conduct interesting scene simulations with children, let the father play a bad role in the child, deliberately bully him, and see the child's reaction, while the mother can be a military adviser beside the child, and lead him to make a correct response.
4. Learn to observe the environment and reduce the damage to yourself. Tell the children that when they are unable to resist the bully, they should avoid being "hanged". You must learn to observe the surrounding environment, find out if there is anyone who can help you, and try to talk about conditions to minimize the harm of others. If there is no way, it is a wise choice to escape from the scene.
The reason why children dare not fight back after being beaten
1. Be timid. If the child is bullied outside, he will be scolded by his parents when he returns home: "You must be the first one to ask for trouble! When can you not make trouble for me!" It is useless to explain. The child slowly stops talking, so the child becomes more and more timid and tolerant.
2. "Peacemaker" mentality. This situation has something to do with the parents' character. They are afraid of conflict and look like "peacemakers". When they see their children contradicting others, they will apologize first, and then leave the impression of "open-minded" to the parents of the other party, but they hurt their own children.
3. Parents always tell their children that it is bad children who hit people, but they don't teach them how to deal with bad children. Most parents can educate their own children, and can't hit others. A child who starts to hit others is a bad child. In order to be a good child, a child is not afraid to fight back if he is beaten, but the parents do not tell him what to do if he is beaten. The child will feel helpless, do not know what to do, and feel wronged, so he can only cry when he is uncomfortable when he returns to infancy.
How to make children brave and responsible and not be bullied by others
Let children learn to say "no". Many parents teach their children to be a person who knows how to share generously. Children must know how to share, but parents must let their children know how to share.
Not everything can be shared. When something unsatisfying happens, parents should teach children to say "no", and appropriate rejection can make children's life easier. Don't let children wronged themselves to satisfy others, which is also very bad for their physical and mental growth.
Let children dare to face bullying. Parents are very important to enlighten children when they grow up. Don't think children are too young to understand what you are saying. In fact, they are very smart. Parents should tell their children that if someone bullies or scolds you, they should learn to protect themselves and resist, instead of letting others bully them. If you are bullied at home, you should tell your family in time. If you are bullied at school, you should feed back to the teacher in time to let the teacher deal with it.
