When most parents know that the children in the third year of senior high school are in love, their first reaction is very panic. Because high school is an important learning stage for children, especially in the third year of senior high school, children are facing an important exam, and puppy love may affect children's academic performance. In fact, puppy love is not as terrible as parents think, As long as we take appropriate ways to guide our children.
How do parents communicate with their children when their senior three children fall in love
1. Communicate calmly with children. As parents, we need to understand the child's views on this relationship, because sometimes his ideas are completely different from those of adults. Don't swear when communicating, because sometimes you can make your children feel that you don't know them at all, which is bad for you.
2. Respect children. When parents are faced with the situation of children's love, you should know that it is not a big mistake for anyone to have such a thing in adolescence, so parents should learn to respect their children. Even in the special period of senior three, they should also talk about this problem with their children rationally. If they persuade children to focus on the college entrance examination first, Think about this relationship after the college entrance examination.
3. Pay attention to the children's dynamics. Pay attention to the child's life ideals and goals, and let him know that in his world, apart from love, family and friendship, as well as academic career, you can't support him all your life. He must pass the college entrance examination to have a better chance to realize his dream, rather than stop at love.
4. Treat children's puppy love objectively. As adolescent children, it is inevitable that senior high school students have a good impression on the opposite sex. As parents, we should treat the issue of senior high school students falling in love objectively. Don't listen to the wind and rain. We must talk about it rationally with children.
5. When communicating with children, you must remember not to deny it directly. If you are anxious, the child will leave directly. So we need to communicate. There are many ways of communication. For example, talking with children about their youth. There are also psychological development related to adolescence to distract children's attention, and at the same time, we can understand children's attitude to this matter through conversation.
The wrong way parents deal with their children's puppy love
Search, isolation and stalking are strictly prohibited. Some parents, when finding their children's puppy love, appear quite calm, but in fact, they are highly nervous, guarded everywhere, and even use improper means to control their children's personal freedom.
1. It's a search. Some parents search their children's schoolbags, clothes and drawers when their children are not paying attention, and confiscate all relevant photos, letters, greeting cards, etc.
2. Is isolation. Some parents will not let their children go out alone or answer calls from the opposite sex when they find that their children have signs of puppy love.
3. It's a stalking. Some parents are always worried and follow their children wherever they go. These three tactics are not fair and aboveboard, and are also undesirable. They may make things stiff, or even directly damage the relationship between parents and children.
How to communicate with junior high school children in puppy love
1. Find the right time to communicate with children. If children are found to have puppy love, if they are separated by force, their resistance will be aroused and their rebellious behavior will appear. Especially boys, who are in the rebellious period of youth, are difficult to control themselves and need us to overcome hardness with softness.
2. Guide children to analyze the advantages and disadvantages of puppy love and establish a healthy concept of love. If the conversation is relatively easy and smooth, we can take this opportunity to guide the child to analyze the advantages and disadvantages of love, tell the child about his worries (affecting learning, interpersonal communication, etc.), ask the child what he should do, and let him think for himself. Since he has chosen to fall in love, he must think of a series of problems and solutions.
In addition, we should make three rules with children to let them know what to do and what not to do as boys, implant a sense of responsibility for children, and more importantly, respect each other.
3. At this time, parents can calm down and talk with their children. They can tell them that they are from that era. They can talk with their children like friends. They can tell their children what is the most important thing at the moment, which is their studies. They can make their children understand that learning is the first task at the moment. Only when they grow up with excellent achievements can they have a foothold in society.
