As children grow older, they will come into contact with all kinds of people. At this time, some children will have a mentality of comparison. If others have something, they should also have it, not only than food but also clothing. In the face of children's psychological comparison, parents must guide children in a timely manner, and do not let children do irreparable things.
How to educate children by comparing food and clothing with others
1. Parents should guide their children's behavior and tell them that it is wrong. They should also set an example by themselves and not compare with other parents. They also don't talk about who wears lower class clothes and who wears higher class clothes in front of children.
Let children have some sense of identity with themselves, and tell them that it is not important to eat and wear these things. Only when they become excellent is the greatest. This is correct. If you want to compare, you should compare who has better performance, who studies harder rather than comparing food and clothing.
2. Parents should reflect on why their children have such a mentality of comparison. They should seriously consider whether it is because they are too strict with their children's food and clothing that children have some inferiority complex. Then they will often pay attention to other people's clothes, and then find that their clothes are inferior to others, Then I want to compare blindly.
Under such circumstances, parents can provide appropriate satisfaction and let children get something they can get. Children of the same age should have some things that their own children should have, and they should not blindly envy others. The comparison situation caused by children's sense of inferiority can be changed.
3. Lead children's attention to learning. The child has a mental state of comparison, which indicates that the child has a sense of market competition in mind and wants to achieve the same level as others or surpass others. As parents, we need to grasp this kind of initiative of our children, change their concept of comparing food, clothing and consumption, and correctly guide their children to compare in learning, training, talent and perseverance.
4. Respect children's nature. Parents should respect their children's nature and not follow the trend blindly. Their children should learn whatever they want to learn. If their children go to Peking University, our children must go to Tsinghua University. This is not advisable.
In fact, only when parents find a development path suitable for their children, train them according to their nature, and let them grow up according to their personality, can their children achieve success and happiness.
How parents guide their children to keep up with the Joneses
1. Parents should not be too fond of their only child. As parents, they should not be obedient to their children, which can easily cause their children to become overly self-centered and lead to inertia in comparison.
2. Parents start from themselves. As the saying goes, "Big dogs climb walls, little dogs learn from others.". Every move of parents will have a profound impact on children. Therefore, as a parent, you should always set an example for your children, and do not keep the mentality of comparison.
3. Change the direction of comparison. Children have the mentality of keeping up with the Joneses, which indicates that there is a tendency or consciousness in their heart that they are not satisfied with the status quo, unwilling to lag behind others or even want to surpass others. Parents should grasp their children's upward mobility, change their children's tendency to compete in food, clothing and consumption, and guide their children to compete in learning, talent, perseverance and good habits.
What impact will parents have on children's performance
1. Influence children's values. Education is more important than achievement. Children will focus on the comparison of achievements in life. There are two situations. One is that children have good academic performance. When children find confidence in their studies, they will pay more attention to it. Once his academic performance is affected, it is likely to hit him and affect his self-confidence.
2. It is easy to raise high score and low energy children. When children focus on learning, they may ignore many pleasures in life, such as making friends and cultivating an interest. Children may abandon all activities that affect their performance, but these activities are likely to affect their happiness index in the future.