In the process of growing up, children will inevitably make some mistakes, which is a very normal phenomenon. But if children do not know how to behave properly and often make parents angry, parents must take appropriate education methods to guide children to correct slowly.
How to educate children when they do wrong things
1. Don't beat, scold or intimidate children. In fact, children's hearts are very fragile. Once parents start to beat and scold or intimidate them, the children will give in on the surface, but in the heart of their hearts, they actually reject and resist. According to the survey, children who grew up in such an environment in childhood will either become callous or timid in adulthood. Therefore, parents should try to reason with their children and make them aware of their mistakes in communication.
2. Try to express your dissatisfaction with your expression. Although the children are small, they actually know how to "observe what is said and what is seen", but it is difficult to express it in precise language. When a child makes a mistake, parents can try to convey their dissatisfaction to the child with their own expressions, which can be deeply felt by the child. Children also love their parents. When they see your expression, they will take the initiative to correct their mistakes to regain their parents' love.
3. Talk about the matter as it is, and do not involve others. When a child makes a mistake in this matter, parents only need to correct, analyze and educate the child's current mistakes, instead of pulling many previous mistakes and making random criticisms of the child, which will only lead to the child becoming more rebellious or less confident. Parents only need to criticize and communicate with their children about their current mistakes, so that their children can realize their mistakes and will not make mistakes again in the future.
4. Communicate with children equally and guide them to think in terms of empathy. Parents should not think that they are parents, and children should listen to their own. When children make mistakes, parents need to guide children to think in terms of empathy in a timely manner. Only by allowing children to think in terms of their own position can they truly realize the seriousness of their mistakes, deeply understand their own mistakes, and avoid making such mistakes again in the future.
How to punish children for their mistakes
1. Sit at home. If the child is noisy at home or quarrels with others, the mothers can punish him to sit still. The specific method is to put a mat or a stool in the inconspicuous place of the home, prepare an alarm clock or clock, and determine the length of the time for punishment according to the size of the child's mistakes. Remember to tell the child the reason for punishing him after punishment. He will not commit again until he remembers it.
2. Arrange children to do housework. In daily life, many children throw toys and scribble on the wall. At this time, parents can punish their children by arranging them to do housework. For example, if children leave toys everywhere, parents can ask their children to help them clean the room together.
When arranging children to do housework, parents should pay attention to that, under the premise of safety, children should be arranged to do housework within their ability according to their age. For younger children, it is recommended that parents lead their children to complete simple housework first.
3. Confiscate a right. This punishment is to let children bear the corresponding consequences for their mistakes. What parents should pay attention to here is that this punishment should be based on the facts. In other words, the right to confiscate should be directly related to the mistakes made by children. For example, the mother asked the child to brush his teeth sooner or later, but no matter what the mother said, the child refused to brush. At this time, the mother can confiscate the right of children to eat snacks.
Before executing such punishment, parents need to communicate with their children about the reasons for confiscating these rights in advance. He also told the child that he would recover his rights immediately after he corrected his mistakes. Once parents have agreed with their children on such punishment, they must strictly implement it. Otherwise, parents will lose their prestige in children's minds, and it will be more difficult to discipline children in the future.
When facing wrong children, parents must avoid these wrong education methods
Direct emotional isolation of children. After some children make mistakes, their parents may say in a panic that they will never want you again and you will never go home again. When parents say these words, they must have done it unintentionally and didn't think too much about it. But for a child, it is all he has. If he often hears such words, he will lack a sense of security. It is reflected in life that he is afraid of hands and feet, for fear of being unpleasant.
Blame small mistakes too much. There are many kinds of children's mistakes. If it is a moral mistake, parents must not tolerate it. They must immediately reverse it after making mistakes. However, if a child only overturns a glass of milk or breaks a pen in his daily life, his parents should not blame him too much. This kind of thing is really harmless, but no matter how small or big it is, the mother will blame her, and the child will easily live in regret, unable to maintain a good mood to face every day.
