In the process of child growth, because the child is still young, some factors will lead to the child's inner peace. In fact, this is the child's impetuous psychology. When faced with such a situation, parents should not be anxious or worried, and take timely measures to help children out of this mentality.
How to deal with impetuous children
1. Set a goal for your child. With a goal, life has a direction. Parents can first set a long-term goal with their children, such as what school to enter in the high school entrance exam, so that children have a clear goal in junior high school. At the same time, parents should tell their children that once the goals are set, they should follow them. Don't change goals frequently, but stick to one goal. The ancients said: those without knowledge always aspire, and those with ambition always aspire.
2. Down to earth, calm down when things happen. When a child has a goal, parents should urge the child not to be impetuous, but to adhere to a step by step, down-to-earth learning. Only by laying a solid foundation can we achieve good results in the middle school entrance examination. When children encounter problems and problems, parents can teach them to be calm and give themselves positive hints, such as, I can do it, I can solve it, don't worry, etc.
3. Targeted training of children. Parents can take some measures to "temper" their children's impetuosity. For example, guiding children to practice calligraphy, learn painting, play the piano, and play chess will help to develop their patience and resilience. In addition, we should guide children to learn to control their impetuous emotions.
When doing things, children can use language to suggest to themselves, "Don't hurry, impatience will do things badly", "Persistence is victory". As long as the child keeps on practicing psychologically, his impetuosity will gradually get rid of.
4. Educate children by example. Example is more important than precept. First of all, parents should adjust their own psychology, get rid of impetuosity, establish hard work for children, and influence children with their own words and deeds. Secondly, encourage children to check themselves against the vivid and vivid qualities of excellent characters and some students around them, urge them to get rid of impetuosity, and educate them to cultivate their good qualities of diligence and perseverance.
Reasons for children's impetuosity
1. Children may be impatient and impulsive when doing other things, so they are also easy to be impatient and unreliable in learning.
2. Some children lack perseverance. When they encounter difficulties, they take a hasty way to escape, or even comfort themselves that they have learned it. This is also a sign of weak will, fear of hardship and fatigue. It is often because children are too spoiled at home that they do not want to invest too much energy and "waste" their brain cells.
3. Family influence. The pressure of fierce competition makes parents' demands too high. The pressure and competition also directly affect the children's impetuous character. The competition urges them to expect to quickly optimize their academic performance. The wrong cognition of learning results leads to the opposite effect.
4. The impact of social and cultural environment. In an efficient society, there are always best-selling books, ranking lists, novel titles, strange plots and exaggerated forms, which dazzle children with low resistance. Under the stimulation of entertainment and sense, there is a trend that they only pay attention to the surface without paying attention to the internal. They pursue the shortcut of speed and solution, and their knowledge becomes superficial, and they are unwilling to go deep into the study of knowledge.
What are the impetuous phenomena of adolescent children
1. Anxiety, irritability, emotional instability: showing impatience in emotion, eager for quick success and instant benefit. In the comparison with the classmates, it shows a more anxious and uneasy mood.
2. Restless: especially in learning, he is always unable to concentrate and pay attention, panics, has no confidence in the future, and is full of confusion and anxiety about the future.
3. Doing things blindly: you don't have your own ideas about doing things, and it is easy to shift by others' will. In addition, actions are blind and lack of rational thinking. They just study blindly, or imitate and follow others at any time, without thinking about what they need.
