The situation of children fighting at school is also normal in the process of children's growth. When there is inevitable friction between children and classmates at school, children will fight violently if they can't control their temper. Parents should not be too worried about this. As long as they take timely measures to make children realize the mistakes of this behavior, they can help children.
How should parents deal with a 10-year-old child fighting at school
1. Understand the reason of the matter first, and don't judge it subjectively. As a parent, when hearing that a child has a conflict with his classmates at school, he must not make an arbitrary decision. Instead, he must listen first to understand the reason for the matter, and not just one side of the story.
Many parents and children have this kind of thing. Whether it is the wrong party or the bullied party, parents will only listen to the teacher's statement, and seldom ask the child patiently about the reason.
2. Children should know how to protect themselves and also learn to take responsibility. When a child has a conflict with others at school, parents should first comfort the child, first pacify the child's mood, and then after the child calms down, parents can slowly straighten out the story with the child.
If the child makes a mistake, then correctly guide the child to pay more attention and correct the mistake next time. If the child is wronged, the parents should also tell the child to resist his classmates with practical actions and learn to protect himself.
3. Tell your child about the consequences of misconduct. Tell the child that anyone who is beaten will be in pain, and never use violence against violence. It really takes a long time to cultivate children's empathy ability, but if you punish children physically, you are also telling them that you can do the same next time. We should objectively help children to analyze the possible consequences of their behaviors, but we should not use intimidation or other methods to create children's sense of guilt.
4. When a parent sees a child fighting, he or she should not judge right and wrong by adult standards. Many parents think this is wrong when they see children fighting. In fact, it should be clearly stated that there is no right or wrong in the fight between children. Parents should not think who is right or wrong when they see their children fighting. This view can not only solve the disputes between children, but also make the conflicts between children more complicated. If handled improperly, it will have a bad impact on children.
The reason why children always fight at school
1. Poor sense of rules and weak self-control. Children are more casual and casual at home. Children enter school but do not enter the role of students. Know that you should obey discipline, line up for exercises and listen carefully. But he is unwilling to do so; At the same time, school will have more stimulation than home.
Children who are sensitive to auditory perception and visual perception and have poor self-regulation ability are difficult to sit in a chair quickly and calmly after being excited.
2. Desire for attention. At home, children are the focus of family attention. Their expressions will be listened to and their needs will be met. But at school, this situation has changed dramatically. There are so many children in the class that the teacher cannot allocate attention and energy to each child. Some children will get more attention by disobeying the rules.
What should I do as a parent if the child beats someone outside
1. Children must not participate in a fight outside, which may rise to a quarrel between parents. It is normal for children to make noise, which will promote their feelings. However, some parents feel that their children have been bullied outside, so they feel that they have no face and want their children to be fair.
The parents' practice is wrong. The children are wronged due to fighting. Although the parents will be wronged, they will seek justice for it. It is easy to make other parents have a bad impression, rise to the quarrel between adults, and even affect the children's isolation or ridicule.
2. Parents should not magnify minor injuries caused by fighting. In general, the fight between children may hurt a little skin. In fact, the children do not feel pain, but when they return home, the parents are very nervous because of the little injury of the children. Originally, they only scratch a little skin, but it seems that the whole life will be lost. If parents are more like this, children will become more and more hypocritical, and their independence will also be affected.
