Children love to express themselves too much. Parents should not pour cold water on their children. They should not attack their self-confidence or undermine their self-esteem. Children like performance, which means that their heart is positive and eager to get attention from others. We can let children learn more knowledge and skills at ordinary times, so that when they perform next time, others will certainly worship us and turn their attention to enriching themselves.
How to deal with children who are too fond of showing themselves
1. This is the performance of children's growth. They should be praised correctly, not attacked. The opinion of adults is different from that of children. As long as children do not do too much, endanger life safety, violate principles, as long as appropriate guidance, there is no need to force prohibition.
A child's love of performance at least shows that he feels that he has certain achievements that can be shown to his little partners. He is confident, not a big problem. You can let your child learn more knowledge and skills to show his ability. In front of his peers, he will be more successful and admired by them.
2. Don't demand children with perfectionism. Parents should have the idea that as long as children participate in housework, we should encourage them not to ask them to be perfect.
3. Affirm the child in time. At ordinary times, more affirmation should be given to children's achievements. You can even hold a family meeting to praise the children's progress, affirm their achievements, discuss some difficulties in life, and find ways to improve together.
4. This kind of child usually lacks confidence in his heart. When he is recognized by others for a certain expression, his heart is full of joy and confidence. In order to get the attention of others and continue this mood, they will constantly express themselves and get affirmation. If this is the case, parents should pay attention to the child's psychological state, communicate with the child more and understand his true heart.
5. Parents should create more opportunities for their children to express themselves in their daily life. For example, take him to more parties, and take him to more activities according to his specialty, so that children can have more opportunities to appear in public. In this way, the child can get rid of the excess energy in activities, so that his performance and attention gradually become normal.
When children's enthusiasm is frustrated, how should we guide them
First of all, affirm the children's thoughts and behaviors and improve their enthusiasm. Children's desire for expression is innate, and they are eager to get the opportunity to express themselves in groups. Parents should encourage children's desire for performance, and support children to actively strive for such performance opportunities, which can exercise children's courage and cultivate their self-confidence.
Some things that are thankless in the eyes of adults are a kind of honor in the eyes of children, so children's selection criteria cannot be measured in the eyes of adults. As long as children are willing to show, we should encourage them to do it boldly, so that children will become more and more confident of their own abilities.
Secondly, give children more tolerance and encourage them to actively strive for performance opportunities. Although children have the determination to perform positively, not every opportunity is available. When children encounter such setbacks, parents should understand and tolerate their children's emotions, tell them that such situations are normal, and learn to accept reality.
At the same time, children should be encouraged to do better so that they will have more opportunities to express themselves in the future. Only when you become the best of yourself, will you have more possibilities.
The child is very sad to be criticized. How can parents enlighten him
Children, like adults, need to be accepted, not discouraged or denied. As long as parents respect his emotions and allow him to express himself, it will not hurt his psychology.
We can accompany our children quietly, show understanding, let them feel valued and trusted, slowly open their hearts, and tell the reasons for being criticized: if the child really has a mistake, parents can accompany the child to find a way to correct it, and clearly express their belief that the child can correct it; If children are misunderstood, they can be guided to express their thoughts bravely when encountering problems, and can be accompanied to solve problems if necessary.
