Children in junior high school are often in a rebellious period, and it is difficult to communicate. In order to achieve good communication effect, first of all, we should put down our own posture, not give orders to our daughter as parents, but exchange ideas equally with her as friends. On the judgment of problems, we should gradually reach consensus in the form of discussion, rather than forcing her to accept arbitrary conclusions!
How to communicate with junior high school girls
1. Avoid rude ways and communicate in a gentle and equal way. Parents' attitude towards their children is very important, especially for children who have entered the rebellious period. Facing the colorful world outside, children begin to pay attention to their appearance. Wear beautiful skirts and paint strange costumes. When they return home, they will be scolded or beaten by their parents, which will surely be unbearable to their children. At this time, the parents calmed down and calmly communicated with their children. The child may be quiet and listen to you talk to her.
2. Cultivate children's habit of independent thinking. Parents can't be crutches for children to learn. When they encounter problems that children don't understand, parents can discuss with their children to guide them to think by their own brains, instead of completely acting for them.
3. The education of children should be as independent and conversational as possible, and public reprimand should be avoided. Children in their teens have the best face, that is, they have strong self-esteem. Therefore, try to avoid educating children in public, especially in front of their teachers and classmates.
4. Communicate with teachers and pay attention to children's changes at any time. But tell the child that he only cares about him and is willing to help him solve problems. Not to spy on him, not to distrust him. Guide children to make positive friends. In addition to parents and teachers, friends have the greatest influence on a child's growth. In particular, children are unwilling to communicate with their parents and teachers, and are more willing to share with their friends. A good friend can stimulate children's interest in learning and guide their healthy growth.
What are the characteristics of children in junior high school
Strong self-esteem. Self esteem is a double-edged sword. As parents, if there is a problem, they will reprimand their children. No matter what people have done before or after, they will not allow their children to defend. This will not only have no educational effect, but will cause their children's rejection and disgust. When children hear the face splitting education, the first thing they think of is that they have no face. How can they look up in front of classmates in the future, instead of reflecting on whether they are wrong or where they are wrong.
Strong sense of independence. After junior high school, many children are no longer willing to discuss everything with their parents, but do it alone. At this time, parents should volunteer to act as advisers to their children and strive to be green leaves. Although, the child is still young and lacks experience in dealing with problems. However, if conditions permit, we should try our best to provide a platform for children to show themselves. Many parents are always afraid that their children will not do well and will do everything for them. In this way, on the one hand, children will lose the ability to think independently, on the other hand, it will also be extremely detrimental to the sound personality growth of children.
Parents should keep the following points in mind when communicating with middle school students
Be tolerant. Due to puberty, the physical and physiological development of adolescents and the reaction of some body hormones, children at this stage are prone to anxiety and rebellion. We should do a good job of effective communication, respect their opinions, and at the same time, we should also maintain a certain tolerance towards them. If this is not a matter of principle, don't be too harsh on children. They must be taught to be tolerant and generous.
Find the right topic. Parents can observe the children at this stage, what they like and what they are interested in, and find some common topics. In fact, children have a strong desire to express themselves at this stage.
You need to find common topics with him, and he will get along with you. So don't talk about learning every time you see children. You can talk about education, interests, ideals, and topics of interest. You will find that they have their own ideas and can communicate well.
