When many parents hear that their children make mistakes at school, their first reaction is to assume and guess the problem, and take a series of tough measures against their children without asking the truth. This practice of parents will not only make children realize the mistakes of their own behavior, but also make children worse and more difficult to discipline.
What parents should do when children make mistakes at school
1. Parents should not threaten their children. The parents should let the children dare to bear the corresponding responsibility, and do not use the results of this matter to intimidate the children. Some parents always frighten their children after their children make mistakes, saying that if they do this again, they will take the children away, or frighten their children through some other ways. This kind of education method really makes children not make mistakes for a while, but it has a very bad impact on children.
2. Parents should actively contact teachers to understand the situation. Parents should reply immediately after receiving the teacher's phone call or WeChat message, and take the initiative to ask for an interview with the teacher. By doing so, teachers can make teachers feel the support of parents for school work and actively communicate with parents. Communicate and properly handle children's mistakes in school.
3. Show your attitude to the teacher. Parents must explain to teachers that their purpose of coming to school is to solve problems, find out the current problems in family education, and improve them in the future. When parents express their attitude to teachers in this way, teachers will feel that parents are very cooperative with their work, and will also reflect the truth to parents more objectively, analyze the reasons for the children's mistakes together with parents, and guide parents in future family education. What should be paid attention to.
4. Discuss the countermeasures with the teacher. After listening to the teacher's report, parents should actively ask the teacher for suggestions to solve the problem. Because it is appropriate for teachers to deal with what happens in children's schools, what parents need to do is to support and cooperate with teachers to carry out work.
Of course, if parents are not satisfied with the teacher's suggestions or have better solutions, parents can also put forward their own ideas to the teacher and discuss countermeasures with the teacher. Parents can reach a consensus with teachers as long as they negotiate with teachers with a positive attitude to solve problems.
How to educate children who don't admit their mistakes
1. Take the initiative to admit mistakes and deserve rewards. If children make mistakes and have the initiative to admit mistakes, parents should stop. On the one hand, they should affirm the children's initiative to admit mistakes, on the other hand, they should also point out the consequences that children should bear after making mistakes. The two should not be confused.
Originally, children's awareness of right and wrong is vague, so parents should talk about things from the point of view, clarify things in different categories, and ensure that children sincerely accept criticism and learn from it.
2. One thing, one discussion, teach the child where the mistake is. When a child makes a mistake, he is most worried that his parents will bring up the old story again. Therefore, when criticizing the child, parents must pay attention to discussing each case. First, warn the children of the consequences and seriousness of their mistakes, warn them to avoid similar things in the future, and then explain to the children why it is wrong to do so, so that the children can improve their awareness and learn lessons while taking into account the consequences.
The reason why children do not admit mistakes after making mistakes
1. Parents' excessive preference for their children. Most of the children who lack the awareness of "mistake recognition" are the final results caused by the reasons of their parents. In the process of educating children, parents will inevitably show excessive preference or protection, and this inappropriate education method will lead to the children's self character, which will lead to errors in recognition.
2. Have resistance to parents. "Acknowledging mistakes" is a matter that requires both thinking and behavior to be consistent. For the sensitive children in the growth stage, the resistance to their parents is the biggest reason for their unwillingness to admit mistakes. Therefore, it becomes very normal for children to become angry when they make a mistake and lack the awareness of recognizing their mistakes.