Students usually go through a period of rebellion. Parents should not be nervous. We can know in advance the age of children's rebellion. Find out the range and take precautions in advance. Do not beat or scold children who are in a period of rebellion. We should give them selfless love and respect.
How old is the rebellious period of students
The rebellious period starts at 10-12 years old, ends at 16-20 years old, and some ends at 24 years old.
The characteristics of the rebellious period:
1. Age characteristics - about 14 years old is the peak age of adolescent rebellious behavior.
2. Gender characteristics - among students with rebellious personality, boys are more than girls.
3. Education characteristics - students with poor academic performance are more rebellious than those with good academic performance.
4. The characteristics of incentives are mainly manifested in the fierce confrontation between parents and children or between teachers and students.
5. Behavioral characteristics - most rebellious teenagers don't care about the consequences of their behaviors and do some very extreme things, such as staying in Internet cafes for a long time, or even wandering, begging, fighting, etc.
Teenagers in the rebellious period objected to their parents' treating themselves as children and pretending to be adults. In order to show their "extraordinary", they also tend to criticize everything. It is precisely because they feel or fear that the outside world has ignored their independent existence that the rebellious mentality arises, thus establishing the equal status of "self" and the outside world by various means and methods.
What parents should do:
If you want your child to go through these three stages successfully, first of all, you should trust the child; Secondly, while maintaining close kinship with children, we should also give them some space: children are not accessories of parents, they are an individual, and need equal treatment from parents, support children's independent attempts, encourage and comfort children when they fail, and give recognition and praise children when they succeed; Finally, children should be given some privacy.
How parents cope with the rebellious period
1. Keep your head cool. When children rebel, their parents will generally be dissatisfied and use their power to suppress their children. In fact, parents at this time should remind themselves to stay calm and communicate with their children after they calm down. When children rebel, their words and behaviors will be like a storm, and they don't know how to control themselves. But their parents are adults, and they should know when to keep calm.
2. Don't over protect children. Encourage children to boldly try what they want to do, cultivate their ability to stand on their own feet and dare to express their own opinions, and tell them to think more positively and not complain all the time. Parents can also give their children more freedom.
3. Trust children. Because they have a strong sense of independence, we should give them corresponding trust. Children often say that my father and mother do not trust and understand me. In this case, we should give him certain rights and trust, and let him do some things independently, and accept the side that they do not do so well. Because they are in a semi adult and childlike state, trust is very important.
4. Good communication skills between parents and children. Parents should always communicate with their children to understand the real thoughts of their children's inner world, but the premise must be to respect their children. We can adopt the transpositional thinking method. Parents also come from this period. Think about why children are like this. With resonance, we will understand children and find out the crux of the problem.
What should children do if they rebel against their parents everywhere
Children should not be taught by beating or scolding. Some parents don't communicate much with their children at ordinary times. When they see their children are disobedient, they get angry. They raise their hands and beat and scold. The children will regard beating and scolding as a way of communication and use it in their communication with other people, such as children in school.
Children's rebellion means that they have grown up. Their rebellion should focus on persuasion, and try to avoid conflicts with their children's needles. Children's rebellion means that they have grown up. Parents must not treat their children in the same way as before, and must adjust themselves in time to adapt to their children's changes in order to achieve better results.
