As children grow older, their sense of autonomy grows day by day, so many parents will find that children are becoming more and more stubborn. No matter whether it is right or wrong, they just stick to their own ideas and do not know how to be flexible.
How to educate children with obstinacy
1. Let the child finish speaking first. At the moment when children are stubborn, the most important thing is to listen to him first and understand what the children's thoughts and opinions are. Adults should never think that they know what the children are thinking. The most annoying thing for such children is the adults' self righteousness. The most annoying thing is that people do not listen to him, which will make him feel incomprehensible and more stubborn.
2. Establish the connection and then boot. If the child is busy with something and is unwilling to listen to the adults, such as playing with toys and not doing homework, the adults should not use a tough way to ask the child to do homework. This will only damage the parent-child relationship, and the child will see you as the enemy. It is better to play with the child for a few minutes to make the child feel that you are an ally, and then encourage the child to complete the work that should be done, usually "partner" Children are better at listening.
3. Pay more attention to children's needs. For such a strong willed child, we should carefully analyze every requirement he puts forward, so that we can avoid conflicts between many children and their parents because their requirements are not met.
Therefore, parents should spend time with their children regularly, maintain an understanding attitude, and often do some actions to express their feelings for them, such as nodding, patting their shoulders, touching their heads, bending down and asking what he said just now.
4. Give children proper rights and let them control themselves. It is necessary to give children some rights properly. There is no need to press children to death. See what children can do with their rights. Often doing so will be better at controlling their own lives, and will make their lives more full.
Sometimes parents just need to observe at the same time, and give children enough opportunities to perform, so that children will develop better in the future. If a child is forced to suppress, perhaps they will not have much performance ability in the future.
What will happen to children who are too stubborn
1. He is stubborn and does not know how to be flexible. Some children are naturally stubborn and stick to their own opinions when doing things. It is difficult to listen to others' opinions or suggestions. In fact, this kind of behavior has some dangers, because if you are too stubborn, you will block the hearing and hearing, and you will not hear different voices, which means that you have lost another vision, which is very dangerous for doing something.
2. Missed an opportunity. Now the world is changing rapidly, and time means opportunity. If a person is too stubborn in one thing, so much time will be wasted, and the best opportunity to change his mind and achieve success will be missed.
Therefore, if a child has a stubborn temper since childhood and does not correct it properly, then when he grows up, he may miss the opportunity because of this character, thus adding some obstacles to his success.
The reason why children are too stubborn
Children desire to be respected. The main reason why children are disobedient and stubborn is that they have reached the age when they are eager to be respected. However, if children's requirements are often not allowed, parents always say no, no and no to them. Based on this, children will become emotionally unstable due to lack of respect, and will deliberately oppose and disobey their parents.
The influence of parents is imperceptible. Research shows that some children's temper comes from the family, and many of them are from one side, that is, the father or mother is very angry. Under the influence of the family environment, children have imperceptibly "inherited" this characteristic of parents, and parents also do not pay attention to their own behavior and performance due to habit problems, As a result, children become more and more serious.
