Many parents will pay attention to the development of their good qualities in the process of educating their children. For example, they hope that they will become stronger and braver, and will not shrink back when encountering setbacks. However, some children will gradually deviate from their parents' growth plans and become more timid, which will make their parents very distressed.
What's the reason why children are too timid
1. Parents seldom accompany their children. Being timid is nothing more than a lack of security. The parents' company during the child's growth is crucial. If parents are busy making money and put their children at the grandparents' home, the child will lack a sense of security psychologically. If they do not communicate with their parents often, their character will become introverted and restrained.
2. Parents usually don't pay attention to education. Some parents like to talk to their children in a threatening way, so the children will believe it naively and think that they will be like their parents said. They will be afraid all the time, but they still dare not express it. They will even have nightmares when they sleep at night, and naturally they will become very timid.
3. Parents are too strong. If the parents themselves are a strong person, the suppression of the children's character is obvious, because the children will become timid if they are under the control of such parents or under high mental pressure for a long time. After all, under the control of parents, children dare not resist their parents. In addition to mental damage, it is difficult for children to be independent or make decisions for themselves.
4. Too few people. The family environment will affect a child's character and temperament. If the child's grandparents, father and mother are introverted and quiet people, the child will inherit this trait to a large extent. Family members prefer to stay at home, resulting in a relatively narrow family social model and relatively few contacts with people, so children are more likely to inherit family behavior patterns in social characteristics.
5. Limit freedom. If you love children, don't over limit their freedom. Some parents always want their children to stay at home and do homework. They are not allowed to go out to play or play with their partners. Children who have not been exposed to outside things for a long time are withdrawn, timid and do not like to communicate with others.
What harm can a timid child do
1. No sense of security. In fact, the sense of security has a great impact on children, because children sometimes need to be at home alone, or get along alone. But if children do not have a sense of security, they may be separated and anxious when they are alone, and become afraid to leave their parents at will. In fact, this is not conducive to the independent cultivation of children's personality, so that children will not dare to travel alone or complete things independently when they grow up.
2. Be timid. Because of timidity, some children will escape or shrink from anything and dare not try and challenge. Therefore, their own character will gradually become cowardly and inferiority complex, and they will not even talk to others, which may eventually lead to children taking a tolerant attitude towards everything, even without their own personality.
3. Vulnerable to bullying. Because timid people can't face things bravely, if they are bullied, they will let the other party bully them and dare not resist. Finally, they are vulnerable to mental injury because of being bullied. If the long-term world develops, it is likely to cause psychological problems for children.
What if the child is too timid
As a parent, don't be too strong, and leave room for children. First of all, parents should know that they should not be too strong at ordinary times. It is good to let children do some small things themselves. They should be patient with their children and not be eager to do everything. They should focus on training their children's independent ability, problem solving ability, and confidence, so that they can become more confident.
Take your children outdoors. In fact, it is a good choice to take children to outdoor exercise, because many children appear timid because they do not have much contact with outdoor things. If you stay at home for a long time and live under the protection of your parents, your child will be short of insight and timid. Therefore, you may as well take your child out to see more things. In this way, the child's mentality will gradually improve, not too timid and afraid of new things.
