The child is 13 years old, but he doesn't like talking, which makes the parents very worried. Every time the parents ask, they will be willing to say. No matter who likes the eloquent children, some parents also think that the eloquent children are more intelligent. When parents face their silent children, they must take timely measures to help them.
What to do with a 13 year old who doesn't like talking
1. Pay attention to equality. Parents or teachers should love their children sincerely, care about their progress and the same problems in their growth, treat them equally, respect them, listen to their children's opinions as friends in case of problems, allow them to put forward different opinions, support their correct opinions, educate them with reason, and pay more attention to mutual emotional exchanges and harmonious relations at ordinary times.
2. More encouragement, more support and more reflection. As we all know, no parenting method can adapt to all families. The key is the attitude of parents. They can be unprofessional, but they should learn hard. By observing children's interests and expressions, we can consider which kind of communication mode and which kind of parent-child games can motivate children's enthusiasm and participation.
If the child has done so, don't be stingy with your praise. Tell the specific content to let the child know that his efforts have been seen by his parents. Only when there is interaction and feedback can the child be more energetic.
3. Children should not be forced to speak. "It is not sweet to twist the boat", this popular saying should be known to all. Many parents will impose their expectations of life on their children to make them live as they want.
Parents tried all kinds of ways to make their children talk more and socialize more. In addition, they invited psychological teachers to report for classes, wasted money, and squeezed their children's free childhood.
4. Use the gentlest attitude, from description to content, to express respect for children. Parents' attitude is very important when communicating with children, because parents' attitude directly affects children's psychological development, their views on people and things, and even whether children's future behavior is within the scope of morality. But many parents completely ignore that they do not think their attitude is necessarily related to the growth of their children.
Therefore, there are some small details that must be paid attention to when communicating with children. For example, do not interrupt the child's words at will, look at the child with your eyes when talking, show your patience and listen carefully to the child's words, do not deny the child at will, and do not blame the child easily.
The reason why children don't talk
1. Lack of environmental stimulation. If all members of a family don't like to talk and everyone likes to be busy, then children will lack an environment to practice speaking. There is no one to talk to him at home, and he can't get feedback when he speaks. Naturally, the child's language ability will be suppressed, which will cause him not to talk.
2. Lack of child's sense of security. The child does not like to talk, sometimes because of the lack of security. He is not sure whether his words are listened to, understood or liked by others. This lack of security will also lead children to choose silence because they want to avoid the risks brought by talking, such as resistance from family members and ridicule from friends.
What impact will a quiet child have
The influence of silent children on their own development is mainly reflected in interpersonal relationships. If you don't like talking among friends, you will put yourself into another circle first.
When others don't know what you are thinking, your communication has been restricted. The so-called non conformity is mostly caused by poor communication. In order for children to be sociable, it is necessary to avoid communication barriers, so the main obstacle for children who do not like talking lies in communication.
Children who don't like to talk may also have an impact on their own learning. For example, when there are problems, they don't know how to ask, and the opportunity to ask is relatively small, which also has a certain impact on understanding. The opportunity to participate in the discussion will also be greatly reduced due to the influence of the habit of not talking.
