When couples are together, it is inevitable that they will have disputes over some minor matters, which has little impact on the children. However, when the quarrel escalates, the parents make a big noise, have a cold war with each other, and ignore each other, this fierce way will have a huge impact on the children. Therefore, for the sake of children's physical and mental health, it is necessary for parents to create a good family atmosphere for their children.
How does a family who quarrels every day affect its children
1. A serious emotional impact. When a couple quarrels fiercely, they often ignore the children who are at a loss. Children who don't know the situation think that their parents are angry with themselves, afraid that their parents don't like themselves and don't want themselves, and have a strong sense of sadness and helplessness.
It is beyond the children's ability to understand and bear to see the people they rely on and are close to hurt each other. They worried that their parents would turn around and leave at any time, and that their safest home would no longer exist, and they could not keep their hearts full of deep fear.
2. Character is defective. Most children are very sensitive, especially when their parents quarrel endlessly. Children in such a tense state will spontaneously fear. Some children will also fall into self blame, thinking that it is because they did something wrong that caused their parents to quarrel.
However, children living in such a family for a long time will be more self abased and cowardly in character, and will easily have pessimistic feelings. Even some children will "imitate" their parents' behavior. When they communicate with others, they are easily irritated in character. They are more extreme in doing things and behave worse.
3. No sense of security. Nowadays, children receive a wide range of information. There are too many TV dramas and movies to describe what happens after parents quarrel, divorce and the chain reaction of divorce. Therefore, when parents quarrel, children are easy to associate with the plot of the TV play, so they are worried about the gain and loss, and always worry about whether their parents will be separated from them. Children who suffer from this kind of psychological torture for a long time will naturally be extremely insecure.
4. Unable to concentrate. If parents do not pacify their children's emotions in time after a quarrel, they will keep their children in a state of anxiety. They can't concentrate on doing things, and it is difficult to focus on learning, so they gradually lose interest in learning.
5. Influence the concept of marriage. According to the research, children who often see their parents quarreling will hate marriage or feel disappointed in marriage. Of course, they may also quarrel with their partners and "imitate" their parents' behavior.
How to minimize the harm to children when parents quarrel
1. Try to avoid quarrelling in front of children. When there is a conflict between parents, parents need to take care of their children's emotions at the first time, and each other should calmly think about whether there is a need to quarrel or think about solutions together. However, if parents cannot control their anger and must vent, they are suggested to go back to the bedroom and close the door to fight again. Try not to let children see their "ferocious" appearance.
2. Communicate and explain with children in time. After the parents quarrel, whether they are in front of the children or not, they need to explain what just happened to the children. Timely pacify the child's emotions, and also express their love for him to the child, rather than pretending that nothing has happened.
3. Make peace in front of the children. If parents are reconciled after quarreling, they need to be closer to their children to let them know that "this matter" has been turned over. The purpose of reconciliation in front of the child is to let the parents try not to have a cold war, so as not to hurt the child's heart.
What kind of family atmosphere is most beneficial to children's growth
1. A harmonious family. If in daily life, parents can control their negative emotions, not lose their temper casually, and the relationship between husband and wife is always so sweet. Children who grow up in this family environment generally do not feel "lack of love". They will feel more secure when they grow up, and will be more responsible for their families.
2. A family with good communication. Some parents are used to being "dictators" at home, and their children's affairs are mostly handled by themselves from childhood, without listening to their children's opinions at all. Although doing so can do things well, it will cultivate children's "inertia".
In the long run, when children encounter problems to be solved, they will not choose to communicate with others, but will only complain about others. Such "dependent personality" will not be liked by others anywhere.
