1、 How much distance should be kept between husband and wife
1. Give the other party some independent space for activities
If your partner comes home 10 minutes later than usual, you will immediately call for questioning? He is going to have a party with his college classmates. Do you have to follow him? Some people in life wish they could become conjoined babies with their partners, but for men, there is a psychological term called "cave complex" - they like to stay alone in their own "cave" for a while, while for women, this independent space is called the third space, a relaxing time for leaving home and children, and gathering with colleagues or friends in the workplace.
Experts said that giving each other some independent space also means giving each other freedom and trust.
2. Don't vent negative emotions to your partner.
When a person is at a low ebb, he usually hopes to vent his negative emotions and pass them on to others, so it is easy to find an excuse to pick and choose others and attack them. Experts say that if you always have a few days of low ebb every month, you'd better develop your stress digestion ability. Jogging, yoga and other sports can help relax your body and mind, and getting together with your friends can also relieve and transfer pressure.
3. Don't interfere in your partner's affairs.
Case 1: There was a wife who knew that her husband was bullied in the company, but she went to the company and made a scene. On the surface, she helped her husband vent his anger, but in fact, she made him lose face. Case 2: When a wife wanted to apply for an interest class, her husband commented on her decision.
Experts pointed out that some matters between husband and wife involve both parties and need to be discussed together, but some belong to personal areas, such as office interpersonal relationships, certain life ideals and friendship circles. At this time, you can help your partner with ideas, but do not interfere at will.
4. Don't rely too much.
Case: When a girl and her boyfriend were in love, they had more than 10 phone calls every day, which led to her boyfriend having to carry three batteries for backup. After the marriage, she followed her husband wherever he went, and asked him for advice on everything big and small. Finally, the husband chose to divorce because he felt extremely self-conscious and under great pressure.
Experts analyze that although marriage connects two people closely, it does not mean excessive dependence. Especially in modern society, everyone is under great pressure. It is difficult to maintain enthusiasm for a person who depends on himself and adds too much pressure to himself for a long time. Experts emphasized that proper independence is an important condition to make the other party more relaxed# P # Subtitle # e#
2、 The most taboo thing between husband and wife
1. Turn over old accounts
It is forbidden to turn over old accounts between husband and wife, which is easy to arouse internal dissatisfaction of both parties, and is not conducive to a harmonious relationship between husband and wife. Many things pass away with the wind, and life should look forward.
2. Too close to other members of the opposite sex
Married people should have married consciousness. To keep a distance from other members of the opposite sex is the most beautiful reserve.
3. Cold War
It's normal for couples to quarrel. After the quarrel, if there is only an endless cold war, no one is willing to bow down, the relationship between husband and wife will get colder and colder, and slowly push each other away from their own world.
4. Challenge the other party's ability
When two people live together, they should encourage each other. If they question each other's ability too much, their lovers will fall into a deep sense of inferiority. A person with low self-esteem will also lose the ability to love others.
5. Sleep in separate rooms
As the old saying goes, if you quarrel at the end of the bed and sleep in separate rooms, you will lose the best opportunity to resolve conflicts and embarrassment. Once the separation of beds is long, it will greatly affect the emotional communication between husband and wife. It is difficult to sleep together again.
6. Hurt the family
No matter whether there is a dispute or a quarrel, don't involve the other party's family, let alone take the other party's family as the target of attack. People should be considerate. Once said, this kind of words will hurt each other's heart.