Parents know that raising children is a long and difficult project, which not only costs a lot of money, energy and time, but also requires parents' careful company, because there are always many problems in the process of educating children. If you want children to become excellent, you should "suit the remedy to the case" and use the correct methods.
How to educate stubborn children
1. Teach children to express their emotions. In fact, when children were young, their minds were very simple. When they faced things they didn't like, they often expressed them very directly, because when their parents quarreled, they usually said the words "I hate you". Simple words can cause great harm to their parents, just like a sharp knife stuck in their heart.
2. Learn to respect children's opinions. Most of the time, children don't have to talk back to their parents deliberately. Children talk back because they have their own ideas. They don't think it's right to listen to their parents. So when something disagrees with their parents' opinions, they will talk back to make their parents compromise. Maybe the child is too young to express some ideas properly. At this time, parents should tell the child what they don't like, and they should tell it directly. Mom and Dad won't force you.
3. Understand the motivation of children's obstinacy. If children always like "obstinacy", most of the reasons are because they want to cover up their mistakes and keep their good child image. Children make mistakes and refuse to admit them, because a little recognition will be labeled as disobedient by parents, so they want to hide it.
4. Give children time to calm down. With the growth of self-consciousness, children's emotions are prone to fluctuate. When children talk back to their parents, we can say to them like this: "I know you are angry now, but it is wrong for you to do so on the subject. So think about it for yourself, and I will talk to you after you calm down."
The reason for children's obstinacy
1. As a result of parents' indulgence, children's preference for "talking back" is often caused by parents' excessive indulgence. Parents are obedient to their children and never disagree. Children have developed the habit of taking themselves as the center. When they don't want to listen to their parents, they will speak rudely against their parents.
2. Children feel that their parents make a mountain out of a molehill. Some parents like to make a mountain out of a molehill after their children make mistakes. It is obviously a small matter, but their parents say it seriously. Children feel that their parents make a mountain out of a molehill, so they are unhappy, so they talk back to their parents.
3. Parents nag. In fact, the most thing that children dislike our parents is nagging, but most parents have this problem, especially when children make mistakes again and again when doing something. Most of our parents' practices are nagging children over and over again. In fact, our parents reflect on their own childhood nagging parents is also very rebellious, So we should first change our nagging problem.
4. The child's sense of existence is relatively weak, and his daily life often fails to receive attention and affirmation. He is very angry. He wants to brush the sense of existence through obstinacy and confrontation. We should be more sure of the child's sense of existence, and we should give him more feedback on what he does every day. For example, he did a good job in this matter, and we praised him in time.
The child's stubborn behavior
With a clear sense of self awareness and dignity, when children learn to speak and have the ability to speak, they will gradually have self-awareness and ideas. Their answer back is to maintain their dignity. Children's awareness is not as clear as adults.
I feel that I have grown up and have a sense of decision-making. When I was young, I did not know what to do. What my parents said was obedient, without my own ideas and judgments. But as I grow older, children gradually have their own pursuits and ideas. They will want to get rid of their parents' preaching and hope to make their own decisions in life.
The children became grumpy. At this time, they felt that they were already "adults" and valued the initiative very much. They also lacked patience in communicating with their parents and were hot tempered. Sometimes, they will "spit fragrance", which makes parents feel distressed.
