Children's lack of interest and enthusiasm in learning makes many parents anxious. Only by finding the real reason for children's lack of enthusiasm in learning can we solve the problem pertinently. In fact, the key is to let the children themselves, from the bottom of their hearts, truly realize the importance of learning enthusiasm. The following is a detailed introduction of what should be done to mobilize children's enthusiasm for learning.
What to do if children are not active in learning
1. Set small goals reasonably according to the child's own situation. Many parents like to set goals for their children, but their goals are too ethereal and unrealistic. The child's performance was counted down, and you directly asked him to take the first place in the class, which is impossible to achieve.
So when parents set goals for their children, they must let them see, feel, and work hard to easily achieve them. After they have completed such a small goal, parents can appropriately increase the difficulty, let them slowly progress, and never aim too high.
2. Appropriate rewards and punishments. There is an old Chinese saying, "Give a sweet date a slap", which is also applicable to children's education. After parents set goals for their children, they should also have a reward and punishment system. When children reach a goal, they should be appropriately rewarded to stimulate their enthusiasm.
If they fail to reach the goal, they will be punished. However, this punishment cannot be corporal punishment. It can reduce their entertainment time or let them do some housework.
3. Parents should always encourage their children. There is an old saying that "filial piety comes from the stick". In the ancient people's view, only by strictly controlling children can they have a long memory. But today's society pays attention to quality education, and parents' encouragement can play a better role than beating and scolding. So when children are not interested in learning, parents may try to encourage them, and children will be more motivated to move forward with their parents' encouragement.
Causes for children's lack of active learning
1. Difficulties cannot be solved. Children are not active enough in learning. They may encounter problems and can't find solutions. This will make children feel frustrated and feel that their learning ability is very poor. Children can't find fun in learning, and failure to solve problems will make them lose confidence. This will frustrate the child. With the pressure from both parents and teachers, children will avoid learning.
2. Parents did not set good examples. When parents want their children to become what kind of people, they should set an example. Children are not active and lazy in learning. Part of the reason is that parents are lazy at home. Children will learn from their parents if they want to play instead of work. Parents like reading when they are free at home, and children will naturally love reading.
3. Children have no goals. Only when there is a goal, there is motivation. Many children do not know why they study. They are blind in learning. It is difficult to achieve good results by doing something aimlessly. If they encounter setbacks in the process of learning, they will choose to give up. This will greatly reduce their enthusiasm for learning.
4. Lack of interest in learning. As the saying goes, interest is the best teacher. If people are not interested in a thing, it is difficult to focus on it. They will feel bored and have no motivation.
What are the negative effects of parents' excessive criticism when children are not active in learning
1. Let children feel inferior. The criticism and negation of parents gave birth to a lot of inferiority in children's character traits. Children's self-evaluation becomes more negative and negative in the sound of parents' blows. Children's inferiority complex makes them show negation and doubt about their own abilities.
2. Let children lose the motivation to improve themselves. Too much criticism made the child lose the ability of emotional self-healing, and the child gradually lost the courage to try to change under the influence of negative emotions. The child gave up the opportunity of self-improvement, and also believed that he could not change. The child had some negative thoughts of "broken pots and broken pieces".
3. Affect parent-child relationship. Excessive criticism makes the emotional relationship between parents and children become sensitive and fragile. The parent-child relationship gradually alienated in the criticism of parents. Children are no longer willing to open their hearts to their parents, nor are they psychologically demanding for help from their parents.
