When parents educate their children, if their children hit their parents, they must pay attention to it. Parents can sit down and communicate with their children to find out the reason why their children do this, whether it is because they are dissatisfied with their parents' educational methods or what difficulties they encounter, and solve the problems according to the reasons.
How to teach children to beat their parents
1. Parents should handle it calmly. If the child starts to attack the parent, the parent must calm down and deal with it gently. Let the children calm down for a while, so that everyone has a calm period, so that the children can see how the parents deal with angry emotions, and let the children know that not all angry ways are shouting, but also can be calm. At the same time, it also needs to give the child time to think to digest his emotions. When the child finds no reason to lose his temper, he will naturally calm down.
2. There can be no compromise. Reasoning with children must be gentle, but the attitude is absolutely firm. We must stop this bad behavior in the cradle. Parents should not underestimate their children's ability to look at their words and expressions and bully others. Therefore, parents must keep the family rules in principle. One is one, two is two, and there should be no ambiguity, allowing children to take advantage of loopholes.
3. Guide children to vent their emotions in other ways. There are many ways to vent bad emotions. For example, running, talking, listening to music, etc. are all good ways to vent. Let children have bad emotions, ease their emotions, let them communicate with themselves in spirit, relieve pressure, and be calm.
4. Help children control their emotions. Young children do not know how to manage and control their emotions, which requires the patient help of parents. If it is a child with an urgent personality, the mother should be more patient and try to appease or divert the child's attention. When the child's mood stabilizes, slowly tell the child what to say and do to solve the problem he wants to solve.
5. Understand children's inner needs. There are two reasons for young children to hit people. One is to attract adults' attention, and the other is to have certain needs. Therefore, parents should understand the reason why children hit people, and then apply the right medicine. If they want to attract adults' attention, parents should pay more attention. If there is a need, parents should patiently teach children to express it in words or reasonable ways. Help children solve problems in an appropriate way.
How to educate children who beat and scold their parents during the rebellious period
1. Adults should stop all kinds of behaviors that force children or other adults, including "soft" coercion. For example, they should not always strongly demand how children should be treated, or they will not listen to children's views. Everyone should be calm, everyone should listen to others' opinions equally if there are contradictions, and small problems should be tolerated. Slowly develop the habit of solving problems through consultation on an equal basis.
2. Don't scold or even have more violent conflicts with children. When children's emotions are aroused to a certain extent by their parents, children will burst out to defend their rights and self-esteem, and they will fight against their parents.
3. Adults should not always say that children are wrong here and bad there, so that children can accumulate emotions. Adults should learn the skills to get along with children in the rebellious period and learn relevant knowledge. Once again, adults should not be too lenient and strict with children on some issues. They should not indulge their children's unreasonable behavior, nor always look down on children and interfere with children too much.
What are the drawbacks of the parental force education method
1. Children can become emotionally out of control. If parents only use force to solve problems, it is impossible for children to really understand their own mistakes. If you don't hit hard enough, the child may not have a long memory. If you beat too hard, the child is also likely to lose control of emotion and cry. So the way of solving problems by force is absolutely wrong for parents, because you can't control this degree at all.
2. Autism, low mood. Most autistic children have been treated by their parents by force, because children are not as powerful as their parents. When they do something wrong, they can only watch their parents beat them. Although they may be afraid at the beginning, children will certainly become autistic, unwilling to speak, or even depressed after a long time.
3. Children will be more convinced that force can solve problems. If you also use force to solve problems, children will believe that force can solve problems. The way of giving back to others will not let children know why they were beaten. Instead, they feel that force can make a person surrender. In the future, children will still use force to solve problems, but the target of violence is not parents, but other weak children.
