The 11 year old girl is irritable. Parents should reflect on the way of education at home and check whether the family members or children's friends are grumpy. In this way, children may learn from others' personalities. We should pay attention to creating a mild growth environment for children, which requires our parents to set an example and pay attention to children's friends, Help children establish a correct view of making friends.
11 year old girl is irritable. What should parents do
1. Pay attention to the child's mental state. At this time, the child's mentality will change, perhaps because of friendship, perhaps because of love. At this time, parents need to understand well and not be angry because of the child's state.
2. Communicate sincerely. Parents should always communicate effectively and sincerely with their children. Children are in a sensitive period, and many problems may not be willing to tell their parents. At this time, we need to take the initiative to find them, understand their recent mental state, take precautions to avoid unnecessary backlog problems.
3. Don't use force to suppress children's rebellion. This will only backfire and make children more rebellious. To be a reasonable parent, even if the child is unreasonable, parents should also be reasonable and not be as crazy as the child. The child's rebellion is rebellion, but the child's reason is still there, which can be said to make sense.
Therefore, when children are rebellious, they must be reasonable rather than accusing. This will backfire and make the situation worse.
4. Don't force children to listen to their own opinions with the authority of parents. You can make friends with children, understand their thoughts, and go into their hearts to understand their children so as to better guide them.
5. Parents should be more tolerant of their children. In fact, when children lose their temper and vent their emotions to their parents, many parents will choose violence against violence. This way will make children more rebellious. Next time, the child's temper will become even worse. We parents should learn to think and understand problems from the child's perspective. Find the root of the child's anger, rather than using violence to stop the child.
6. Parents should also talk well, get along peacefully and deal with problems calmly. Children are good at imitation. What family members are like, what children are like! Then in the evening, you can read books with your children, put down your mobile phone, and enjoy the fun with your children!
In family education, we advocate a scientific way of family education, which requires parents to do the following
1. Parents should set an example in family education
2. Parents should pay attention to children's physical and mental development in family education
3. Don't spoil children too much
4. Avoid authoritarian education and give children a relaxed environment
5. The education of children should be timely
6. Parents should control their temper
7. Parents should actively listen to and meet their children's demands
8. Parents should accompany their children more
Most of the time, children's bad temper and grumpiness are not formed at once. They are formed slowly in life and study. So parents should first learn to speak calmly with their children, stabilize their own emotions, and parents' good emotions, so that children will bravely and gently face difficulties with you, and put "you are looking at the problem, how can you not?" Change it to "Let's examine the question seriously together", maybe it will be simple.
What are the consequences of parents doting on their children
1. He is arrogant and arrogant. They do not know tolerance and tolerance, nor respect their parents, nor are they polite to other elders. Some children will be cowardly because they have been spoiled for a long time. When they encounter difficulties, they will rely on their parents to solve them, which will affect the formation of their character. They will not be able to bear setbacks and difficulties, which will affect future interpersonal relationships.
2. The parents' prestige is damaged, and the children are lawless. Parents spoil their children for a long time, which is bound to damage their parents' prestige. Therefore, the child is likely to become lawless. She thinks she is the little princess in the family, and her parents must also meet her requirements. After a long time, the children will even order their parents. Once their parents do not agree with their requirements, they will start crying and making a scene.
3. Lack of sense of responsibility. Because parents dote on their children, they may seldom let them do something, and even some of their children's things are covered by their parents, so there are very few opportunities to exercise their children in this process. Then in this process, children will not realize where their value and sense of responsibility are, and they will not think of doing something by themselves, So I often can't find my sense of responsibility.
