As children grow older, they will basically experience the first rebellion period when they are about 10 years old. When they are adolescent, they will become more rebellious. Therefore, it is particularly important to educate children at this stage. Only by mastering the correct education methods can children grow better, and it will also provide great help to children's life.
How to deal with the rebellion of a 10-year-old child
1. To strive for equal status, as the child grows up, the psychological need for independence is increasing, and others need to treat him equally and recognize his independence. If parents lack awareness of this and blindly restrain and control in the name of protection, it will lead to children's resistance and highlight parent-child conflicts.
2. Strengthen communication. Children in the rebellious period need parents to communicate frequently. Because children already have their own ideas, they are also easy to confront parents, so parents must care more about children, and don't let children feel that parents ignore their ideas and have insufficient relationships. If the discipline is too strict, it will be counterproductive. When speaking, you need to pay attention to your own words. Don't say words like "must". You can use "should", which is easier for children to accept.
3. Observation communication is to observe the way children communicate with themselves. In many cases, parents must get rid of their own role and observe children's rebellion from the perspective of a third party. And treat children from different perspectives and make limited accommodation.
4. Adolescent children emphasize their own decisions, but many things will be wrong or insufficient due to experience and immaturity. Parents should curb their impulsion and let children finish talking and finishing things. Then praise and encourage them to do the right thing, and patiently point out the things that need to be adjusted and improved, so as to avoid random criticism and arousing children's rebellion.
When I was a child, I always complained about my parents and would only quarrel with my children and suppress education. Now as a parent, I find that I don't know how to communicate with my children. I just want to be strict for the good of my children. They will understand in the future, but there is also a gap between me and my children.
Reasons for the rebellion of a 10-year-old child
1. Excessive pressure, especially in learning. Once a parent asked me why children are always cold and hot to their parents? I replied: Strict management is naturally cold, and learning is naturally hot. Because learning does not need parents to give pressure. The teacher will give him pressure, the classmates will give him pressure, he will give himself pressure, and the pressure of the parents can only be worse! Parents suddenly realize that "home" is a place for children to decompress and recharge.
2. No respect, no trust, no human rights. Some people think that they are the elders of their children. It is the children who do it first and I will give feedback. On the contrary, children are the feedbacks. Children must grow up in a respectful environment before they can learn how to respect others.
Otherwise, the child will slowly turn from doubt to resistance. In fact, the family can be a little more democratic. When it comes to discussions related to children, children can participate in them and choose the best results by family meetings. In this way, children can fully experience the sense of respect and trust. Human rights include the right to speak, the right to privacy, the right to vote, the right to choose, and so on.
The rebellious behavior of a 10-year-old child
Antagonistic, very indifferent to parents, and the relationship distance increases. I think that my parents' discipline does not conform to my real life standards, and implement negative resistance and obvious confrontation; The tendency to reject is obvious, even openly hostile; What they were asked to do did not happen, or did the opposite.
Sensitive and rebellious children are eager for independence, but sometimes they want to be cared for. Therefore, parents can observe their children's behavior. If they show a strong desire to perform something and hope to do it alone, parents can relax their authority to let their children experience dealing with something alone, or let children enjoy the distribution of rights. In this way, children can have independent experience while avoiding conflicts.
