The son can't be controlled when he is 14 years old. Parents should be able to understand the child's rebellious psychology. After all, the child has entered adolescence. At this time, we should pay attention to the attitude and way of talking with the child. We should treat the child equally. Don't always think about managing the child. We should also let the child learn to grow up. If the child falls more, he will face it well and respond positively.
What should I do if my son is not obedient at the age of 14
1. Pay attention to the way of speaking, try to communicate with the child with a medium tone and speed, and get the child's favor from the atmosphere first. Don't transfer anxiety to children. Parents work in the daytime, spend too little time with children, and don't talk too much. They can use breakfast and dinner time to have parent-child interaction with children, affirm children's progress more, and deny children less, to stimulate children's learning motivation.
Some parents think that they are very authoritative and their children will listen to what they say, but playing is a child's nature. When their rights are violated, it will only backfire. They should establish prestige, but not beat the child. When you do what you say, the child will know the weight of what the parents say instead of touching the bottom line.
2. Positive guidance should be given, especially to children who are good at expressing themselves. They should not be obsessed with problems. If they do not communicate with their parents, family members and friends, they may make their depression, anxiety and other emotional problems more and more serious. Only by positive expression can 14-year-old children slowly become confident and learn to communicate.
3. Many parents think that children are in a rebellious period and need to be disciplined by force. In fact, this idea is wrong. Children should be given their own freedom and space so that they can vent and express themselves. Parents should not think that children are too young to understand and should not always focus on their academic achievements, which will increase pressure on children and doubt their parents' motivation. So when communicating, parents should pay more attention to their children's life and other things as much as possible.
After children enter puberty, parents need to pay attention to the following points
1. Parents should understand and respect their children, not use violence against violence, force their children to act according to their parents' opinions, and make friends with their children.
2. Let children understand the truth in the process of understanding and communication.
3. Accompany the child to grow up in the process of his experience and guide him out of emotional problems or cognitive errors. The accompanying, guidance and guidance of parents are of great significance.
4. Let go and give children the chance to grow. Each rebellion represents the growth needs of children. As a parent, we should trust our children, give them some opportunities, let them learn to arrange themselves, learn to think independently, solve problems, and also give them some opportunities to take responsibility.
5. When communicating with children, listen patiently.
To communicate with children in the rebellious period, we should grasp three principles
1. Keep the authority of the parents, and do not compromise or flatter them. It is a fact that the rebellious children around 14 are not easy to manage, but some parents will accommodate and compromise their children in order to make them better, and even have some flattering actions.
In fact, such education will never solve practical problems, and will often make the results worse. Parents must ensure their authority and let children know that parents have a bottom line and a red line. Your parents can forgive you and give you time to correct your mistakes, but you should not easily touch the red line of parents, let alone break through their bottom line.
2. Communication must be equal, relaxed, harmonious and natural. Children around 14 years old are more eager to be respected by their parents. They hope that parents can give them more time and space, and that they can support and understand their own ideas.
14 About children's psychological cognition Parents must understand, and put down their attitude, put down their airs, create opportunities, build a platform, and communicate with children more. Communication must be carried out equally, easily, harmoniously and naturally. Only through such communication can children open their hearts, accept their parents' suggestions, and be willing to do self reflection and correction.
3. Communication must have constructive results and reach consensus. The purpose of communication is to promote children's self correction. No matter what they talk about with their children, parents should respect their children's ideas and opinions. As long as their children's ideas are not excessive or excessive, they should actively accept them and give them praise and affirmation.
Then, we will talk about the views and opinions of parents. Finally, we should reach consensus with our children. Such communication is constructive and can really promote children.
