It is believed that most parents have experienced the rebellious period of their children, which is the most difficult period for children to discipline, especially for children in junior high school. Children will not listen to their parents at all, and will be extremely headstrong. Many parents always feel panic when facing children in this period, and do not know what to do.
How to communicate with rebellious children in junior high school
1. Parents should try to go into their children's hearts. Try to enter the child's inner world, and don't always look at some behaviors of children from the eyes and perspectives of adults. Try to communicate with children more and see what their real thoughts are and how they view a problem you don't understand, so that you can communicate with children in the deep of your heart.
2. Pay more attention to children's hobbies. No matter how rebellious a child is, he still has something he likes to do, people he likes, and hobbies. If you want to have endless words with your child, you must know what he likes and what his hobbies are. Once you talk about these topics, your child will have endless content to share with you. This is the magic of interest.
3. Think carefully about the request made by the child and respond carefully. The children in the rebellious period will be very angry and it is more difficult to trust their parents if they agree to their children's requirements in a hurry and then go back on their words.
Some parents habitually deny, and then negotiate with their children, so that their children are opposed to their parents at the beginning. The correct way is to tell the child that I should think about it carefully first, and then respond in a way that the child can accept.
4. When communicating with the children in the rebellious period, we must make the children sincerely believe that they really want to listen to his ideas and put him on the same equal status. Don't always impose your own ideas on the children.
Try to understand the child's idea with a new idea. If you think the child's idea is correct, you can let the child do it. If you think the child's idea is incorrect, parents should not be anxious to deny the child. Instead, they should first say what they think is wrong, and then let the child do it. After the child realizes the mistake, he can teach the child.
How to educate the parents of junior high school children during their rebellious period
1. Appropriate consideration and moderate satisfaction. Children in the rebellious period want to get rid of their parents as soon as possible. They want to have their own independent space. In such a situation, parents do not need to deny their children immediately. Instead, they should think about why their children do this.
Don't undermine the child's self-confidence, so that she will be difficult to be independent and grow up. Parents should communicate with their children more about what wishes they have to meet her appropriately.
2. Keep experimenting with ways to educate children. When parents discipline their children, they should always change their ways. When children are young, they usually just talk to their parents and listen to their children. After junior high school, you should try two-way communication and listen to the children's suggestions. Once a certain method is found to be impractical, the method should be changed at any time and tested continuously until an effective method is found.
3. Seek advice. When we discipline our children, we should sometimes seek the opinions of others to broaden our minds. It is better to strengthen communication with the child's teacher to understand the child's performance at school.
Several ways for children to rebel
1. When children reach a certain age, about three years old, they begin to have their own consciousness. They will say no to things they do not want to do, so they will slowly want to do something in their own way, not listening to their parents.
The second stage is generally at the age of 10, when the children have grown up and can make their own decisions, and they gradually become unwilling to communicate with their parents.
2. The disobedience of a child means that he wants to express his unique personality in his mind, so that more people can pay attention to and understand himself, and then he will do something that others think is unreasonable. As a parent teacher and a psychologist, what they understand is totally different. Some of them are rebellious. They are parents' self righteous understanding methods.
3. At this stage, some children are really rebellious. At home or in the classroom, their actions and thoughts are very rebellious. They will speak loudly in the classroom and influence the students around them. When they are at home, their parents ask them to do what they want, and the children will do what they want.
