As children grow older, children will become more and more difficult to discipline, especially boys. Sometimes, they will contradict their parents because of their parents' discipline. No matter how they preach, it will not work, and even worse. All parents will feel more and more powerless in educating their children.
What should I do if my son always contradicts his mother
1. Respect children. Many children's rebellious mentality is caused by their parents' high pressure control. The parents arrange their children's life clearly without taking into account their own feelings and wishes. The children feel like birds in a cage, totally free, and will gradually produce rebellious mentality.
2. Recognize your child's abilities. Children really want to be recognized by their parents. Parents can "show weakness" with their children. In the process of getting along with their children, they will deliberately "ask for help" from their children, so that they can have the opportunity to help their parents and give them a sense of recognition.
3. Parents should not coddle their children too much. Parents and the elderly should have principles in front of children and should not be overly accommodating to children. The behavior of tutoring should be unified. One should not be spoiled and the other should be strictly controlled. In this way, the child will find the one who dotes on him as a shield. On the contrary, two adults will have different opinions and conflict. When a child talks back and makes mischief, everyone should ignore him and let him calm down before educating him.
4. Weakening children's behavior. Young children have their own personality and ideas, and they want to make their own decisions. Many parents do not notice this. They like to tell their children how to do this and how to do that. However, children in the rebellious period do not like such orders.
The correct approach is to participate in the things he wants to do with his children and explore with them instead of preaching. In addition, when a child talks back, parents should not be impatient, let alone yell at the child, or it will only strengthen the child's behavior of talking back.
5. Understand the reasons behind children's behavior. When a child talks back, parents may want to explore the motivation behind it. Whether the child is expressing "you won't let me do what I want to do, so I have to talk back" or "I don't like your suggestions"... Some ideas have been expressed by the child, although he didn't say it, but these dissatisfaction has been printed in his heart, Children's dissatisfaction may be the reason for them to say "no" to their parents.
What behaviors of parents will affect children and make children contradict parents easily
1. Always put forward various requirements for children, but I can't do it myself. For example, let children not play with their mobile phones, but they can't put them down every day. Children are required to do homework while watching TV. Children will naturally resent what they cannot do but are required to do. Children feel that their parents' demands on themselves and others are double standards, and as time passes, they are unwilling to listen to their parents.
2. It doesn't matter what the child thinks. Parents only consider from their own standpoint, and don't care about what the children think. They always start from their own standpoint, feel that they are good to the children, and ask them to obey unconditionally.
The parents didn't care too much about what the children were thinking and caring about, so the children naturally refused to talk with their parents.
3. Talking with children is only about learning. Every time the child comes back from school to urge the child to do homework is to ask the child to read a book, even if the topic of ordinary conversation is also three sentences inseparable from learning. Let children feel that learning is far more important than themselves in their parents' hearts.
Children feel that their sense of existence is very low, and their value is learning. In the school, the teacher asked the children to study hard. When they returned home, the parents also took the place of the teacher's responsibility, lacking communication and care between parents and children.
Adolescent children always contradict their parents
1. Be patient enough to listen to the children's heart. When children need parents, parents must appear at the first time, especially when they need help in difficulties. When talking about problems, parents must listen patiently.
Don't try to perfunctory children, but listen to them carefully. Only by fully understanding their inner feelings can we truly cut off the hatred of relatives.
2. Parents must treat their children calmly. When educating children, we should be equal to each other. We should not always think that we are experienced people, or we should listen to our own suggestions when we are older children.
Especially when dealing with children's problems, we must pay attention to our own attitude and tone to be calm, and do not make children resist. Parents should always remember that this is an equal dialogue, and only by respecting children can things be solved better.
