It is children's nature to play, but many of them have no concept of time when playing. Even when parents call their children, children are reluctant to go home, but parents can't let their children play outside all the time. If they play wild, they will not love to go home. The following is an analysis of the reasons why the children are unwilling to go home, and the specific analysis will see how the parents make plans for education.
The reason why children are unwilling to go home
1. Feel uncomfortable at home. Children can't feel the warmth they want, so they want to run away. This should be the real reason why many children are unwilling to go home. The feeling of staying at home is not only uncomfortable, but also accompanied by thoughts of depression and fear.
2. Parents are too strict. With the growth of age, parents' requirements and discipline for their children become more and more stringent. In the eyes of parents, the older they are, the more they should know more truth and develop in accordance with their expectations. Unable to stand the pressure, children have to stay away from home and listen less to their parents' nagging.
3. Lack of parental care. Another important point is that children can't feel love in their family life, so they want to leave. The life outside may be hard, but if children can feel love, they will forget the hard work for a while. Material matters, but companionship and love are more important. Parents must not forget the order.
When children don't like going home, parents' several wrong handling methods
1. Yell at the children in public. Although the child is small, he has strong self-esteem and is very face saving. If parents scold in public without scruple, it will cause long-term psychological damage to children. Moreover, even if the child gave in and went home obediently, the effect of reprimanding was bound to be worse and worse.
2. Regardless, go home first and leave the children outside as punishment. As a parent, if you want your children to feel more secure and trust you, you should never do this. Moreover, it is really unsafe.
3. Without saying hello in advance, he suddenly asked the child to go home in an imperative tone. "I am your mother, you must listen to me." For mothers with strong personality, they believe that they have absolute leadership over their children, and children only need to obey without principles. Therefore, they often ignore some methods and make rude and direct requests. This will only make the child more rebellious.
How to educate parents when children don't want to go home
1. Limit play time. Rules and planning are what children should learn when they are young. Children should know that they need to arrange time according to their own plans. Parents can discuss with their children the time to go out and play and the time to go home. Of course, the reward and punishment system is also essential. Children should pay attention to this agreement.
Once the time is exceeded, the child will be punished accordingly. It is useless to cry. In this way, children will gradually abide by and fulfill their commitments, and gradually become a trustworthy and disciplined person, which is also very helpful for future development.
2. Find other hobbies. Sometimes, when children want to go out to play, they just think it is boring to stay at home, but they will be very happy to go out and play with their friends no matter what. So parents should try to cultivate their children's hobbies by starting with something interesting to their children. For families with sufficient conditions and time, they can also take their children out to skate, learn musical instruments or dance. On the one hand, they can solve the problem of children's fun, on the other hand, they can also allow children to develop in an all-round way.
3. Establish incentive mechanism. If the child doesn't want to go home, parents should patiently warn the child to reason with the child, and reward the child, so that the child will have a lot of interest in going home. Usually, parents should set an example, and go home on time after work. They must treat the child gently, and remember not to beat or scold the child, so as not to cause psychological impact on the child.
