It is normal for children to have friction and fight with other children in the process of growing up, especially boys. Children love to fight and make trouble, which has a lot to do with their growth environment and personality. Parents should communicate with children more, teach them the way to control their emotions, and let them learn to think in terms of empathy.
Character characteristics of fighting boys
1. Self centered thought. Today's children are the treasure of the family, and have a high position. It can be said that "clothes come to hand, food comes to mouth". As long as you say what you want, parents will be satisfied. Children growing up in such an environment are easy to form a self-centered thinking, do not know how to share, do not know how to be grateful.
2. Poor language expression ability. In life, you will find that those children who often prefer to use "force" to solve problems often have weak language expression ability. They can't express their true thoughts, so they are easy to be ignored in peer interaction, which will make children feel very depressed. They will take this dissatisfaction through losing their temper and using "force" To express one's feelings directly.
3. Indulgent parenting style. Whether a family's upbringing style is autocratic, indulgent or indulgent, it is not conducive to the formation of children's good behavior habits. Especially for excessively doting parents, they completely give up the rules and restrictions on their children, meet any requirements of their children in an unprincipled manner, and do not control their children's behaviors. As time goes by, children will become arrogant and will not consider the consequences even if they make some aggressive behaviors.
4. Heroic complex. It makes boys have a "hero complex" since they were young, so most boys are very interested in fighting and heroic behavior. For example, he likes to fight against injustice, meddlesome, and hopes to be worshipped.
Boys love fighting How should parents guide
1. Teach children to see their heart through expression. Most of the time, fighting is because they don't know that the other party has already become emotional. When others are angry, they still tease. When others feel wronged, they also tease. When others are afraid of regret, they still provoke, which eventually leads to fighting. It is important to teach children how to look.
2. Teach children to think in other places. Most of the time, children do not understand each other's psychology, always think from their own point of view, think it is right, and then take action, but they do not know it is precisely the other side's taboo. The correct way is to praise the fun of other people's games first, and then put forward the idea of joining at an appropriate time, so that the transition will be natural and natural.
3. Learn to control your emotions. When a person is angry, he will be impulsive. When a child is angry, the most direct solution is to fight. If you learn to control your emotions and deal with them after calming down, you can avoid fighting.
4. Let the boy know what a real hero is. In reality, heroes will not save the world like Iron Man and Spider Man, or drive the robbers away. Heroes do not rely on their own brute force to do things blindly, but use their own wisdom and ingenious methods to help the trapped.
5. Teach boys to express their emotions in a civilized way. The so-called civilized way is to communicate in peaceful language, but the premise is that the boy must be able to bear his bad mood and have a certain ability to express himself in language. For these two aspects, we should set an example and achieve our goals through long-term training.
What wrong practices should parents avoid when children have hit others
1. Make excuses for children on the ground that they are still young. In many public places, we often see such scenes, where children are playing around and attacking passers-by at will, while parents ignore them. In their opinion, the child is still young, and parents' treatment will make children subconsciously think that they can do whatever they want and attack others at will when they are young.
2. Punish children by beating them. As the saying goes, "filial piety comes out of the stick", which is obviously not applicable now. It seems that parents beat their children to educate them, but in fact this way can not really solve the problem. Instead, it will make children have rebellious psychology, which will aggravate the fight.
3. It hurts children's self-esteem regardless of the situation. Adults have self-esteem, and so do children. Children's self-esteem needs more respect and protection from their parents, and self-esteem will affect the development of a child's character. If you lose your temper to your child, it will seriously hurt your child's self-esteem and is not conducive to the development of his good character.
4. Parents are always nagging and preaching. If you can't beat or scold your children, you can always reason with them. However, many parents turn reasoning into nagging. Many children are bored and rebellious when they hear their parents talk big, and nagging will force their children to go to the bad side, leaving them farther and farther away from the right path that their parents said, and they may not be able to go back later.
