In the process of children's growth, it is inevitable that there will be mistakes, in which parents play a very important role, and some parents have no way to control their own emotions, leading to the adoption of some inappropriate measures, leading to children's wrong behavior intensified. What measures can parents take when facing their children's mistakes?
How to educate parents when children make mistakes
1. After children make mistakes, parents should first know what to criticize. This is also a decision that can be made only after we have known in advance, instead of just criticizing arbitrarily. It is a better educational method to analyze the reasons for children's mistakes, solve problems with children through discussion, and guide them.
2. Have a forgivable attitude towards your child's first mistake. And also patiently explain to the child why he will forgive. Especially when making mistakes for the first time, you should express your expectations for your children. This is more effective than an arbitrary angry quarrel.
3. Children who make mistakes will be punished. Children who make mistakes, intentionally or unintentionally, will be punished. For example, if a child accidentally breaks a cup, he should also tell him that it is his fault, even though he did not mean to do so. Although he didn't expect the consequences of his behavior, he still wanted to apologize for it.
4. The "sentencing" of punishment should be appropriate. The purpose of punishing children is to transform them into benign ones. The "sentencing" of punishment must conform to the children's behavior. If the punishment is too heavy, it is easy to cause the child to resist, but if it is too light, it is not enough to make the child take a warning. Therefore, punishment of children should be based on the principle of achieving the goal. Neither understatement nor overuse of "punishment".
5. Don't beat the child in front of outsiders. Although the child is small, he has his own face. Especially in front of his friends, he is unwilling to lag behind. Once others know that they have been beaten, older children may feel it is a great shame like adults.
The reason why children make mistakes and are unwilling to accept criticism
1. The parents were quite excited. After a child makes a mistake, as a parent, they tend to get emotional for a while. They superimpose some negative emotions on the words criticizing the child. If the child does not appear to be repentant, parents will unconsciously increase their tone, thus driving the child's dissatisfaction and anger.
2. The child is unwilling to accept. When people are not accepted or criticized, they will first choose to protect themselves. Maybe others are pointing out your mistakes and shortcomings, but you are not aware of them. At this time, you will think, what did I do wrong? I didn't do anything wrong. I won't make such a mistake.
Tips for parents' correct criticism of children's mistakes
1. Listen to the child's explanation first. When a child makes a mistake, don't deprive him of the right to speak, give him a chance to appeal and make his criticism more targeted.
2. Let children learn to change their position. When the child argues that it is someone else's fault and has nothing to do with himself, ask the child "what should he say if he is someone else?"
3. Criticize the child's attention to the occasion. It is better for parents to criticize their children alone rather than in public places, such as in public places, in front of their children's classmates or friends, or in front of many relatives and friends.
4. When criticizing children, focus on the facts. Criticizing the child only evaluates the facts, does not analyze the motivation, peels off the child's last bit of shame cloth, and imposes charges on him, is tantamount to adding fuel to the fire.
5. The criticism should be as brief as possible. Try to use the simplest language and spend the shortest time to complete. The feeling of being criticized is always uncomfortable, and everyone hopes that this feeling will end as soon as possible.
6. Learn to hint and silence. When parents keep silent, children feel "uncomfortable" and reflect on their own mistakes. Parents can calmly inspire children, and children will naturally understand their parents' intentions soon.
7. Parents should educate their children on the same front. When parents educate their children, if they sing red and white, what their children want is not how to recognize and correct their mistakes, but to seek refuge.
