When children say they don't want to go to school, as parents, we should not blame and criticize the children first. In fact, children usually don't easily say that they don't want to go to school. There must be a reason why they don't want to go to school. So you can listen to the reason why children put forward this idea. Only when you know the reason, can you find the right medicine to help children out of the dilemma of being bored with school.
What to do if the child suddenly doesn't want to go to school
1. Don't beat or scold. It is forbidden for parents to start or criticize their children for nothing when they say they don't want to go to school. You should know that parents will not only become more and more distant from their children by doing so, which will make them completely lose their desire to communicate with their parents, but also arouse their rebellious psychology and make them more and more disgusted with school. So when parents face this situation, they must first ensure that they have a good attitude.
2. Understand the pressure of children. Just like going to work, adults occasionally have the idea of not having to go to work, not to mention children, and most of the learning tasks are heavy now. Therefore, parents should understand their children more. When talking with them, they should try to stand on an equal footing with their children and not just criticize them. Instead, we should guide children correctly and tell them what the purpose of learning is. Learning is not for anyone, but for the children themselves to be more relaxed and excellent in the future.
3. Quickly master the child's situation. If you didn't know much about your child's learning before, now you should take the initiative to communicate with the teacher to understand his various performances in school. At the same time, timely feedback to the teacher about his learning at home and abnormal behavior, and ask the teacher to pay more attention to the child.
Try to find the children's companions, and you can learn more about the children's recent psychological trends from the side. No matter what information you observe and learn, don't run to question the child or expose the child. If you want to successfully solve this problem, you should always stand on the same side of the child, not on the opposite side.
4. Help children learn to really learn. When children's psychological pressure has been relieved, or they have experienced the hardships of life, if they want to return to school, they must sincerely encourage children, and never give the attitude of gloating.
Help children re-establish a practical learning goal, for example: children are not well grounded and can not keep up with the progress of school. Then, first break down the learning goals, break down the big goals into small ones, so small that children will feel able to complete them at a glance.
Why do children suddenly don't want to go to school
1. Fear. Children are reluctant to go to school mostly because they do not understand the school, especially when they see other children go to school and cry at the school gate, which is a kind of stimulus to their young minds and casts a shadow of terror. Therefore, don't let children feel that going to school is terrible when they are preparing to go to school, and slowly instill the benefits and temptations of going to school.
2. Shy. Children's nature is very cheerful and sunny, but some timid children are shy, shy and dare not accept the new things from outside. This is usually a sign of children's lack of security. Parents should try their best to create an environment, purposefully cultivate children's bold and sunny personality, encourage children more and build their self-confidence.
3. Dependency. Children's dependence is strong, so it is also their nature. They are afraid that they will feel insecure if they do not see their parents at school. The parents of such children should pay attention to cultivating their self-care ability, let them learn to take care of themselves, and cultivate their independent side, but pay attention to the rhythm, and do not progress too fast.
What parents should do when children are tired of school
1. Stop evaluating children. Do not evaluate any behavior of the child, nor over correct it, or even give any advice. Slowly follow the child's wishes, and let the emotions stabilize first.
2. Stop all kinds of interest classes. All kinds of extracurricular interest classes will make children tired of learning. If children are found to be tired of learning, they should stop all kinds of extracurricular interest classes in time to give children more free time to play.
3. Only do basic questions. Some difficult questions or questions beyond the children's cognitive range will not be practiced for children for the time being, and only basic questions can be selected. The children have a sense of achievement after doing the basic questions correctly, and parents' timely encouragement and recognition can help the children quickly regain confidence and interest in learning.
