Communication is an important link to maintain the parent-child relationship. However, some parents will find that as children grow up, they are more and more reluctant to communicate with their parents, so that parents are less and less aware of their children's thoughts, and can not give them a correct education and guidance, which makes parents very distressed.
What should I do if my son doesn't communicate with his parents
1. Communicate according to the current situation of the child. In addition to caring about their children's learning, parents also need to pay attention to their children's performance. Through timely communication with school teachers, parents can obtain various performances of children in school, such as whether they are attentive in class, whether their communication with classmates is harmonious, and what the children have learned.
Parents can casually talk about what their children have received. Children will feel warm through their parents' performance of such small details, because parents also pay attention to their other small points, and don't ignore themselves. Children will slowly express their views and ideas because of the common topic.
2. Use empathy to understand children. Children have no experience of adults, and some things that happen in the external environment cannot be resolved by their own efforts, so children will become depressed or upset. At this time, parents should give their children comfort rather than blame, use "empathy" to understand their children's feelings, and let them slowly pour out.
3. Learn to listen. Children have unimaginable imaginations about the world. When children tell their parents something they have said many times, parents must listen carefully and not be tired of children's wordiness. Don't say to the child: You have said this many times. Listening is the best way of communication. Only when parents know how to listen can children have the interest of chatting, and they are also willing to share their findings, happiness and sadness in life with their parents.
4. Give children more advice than solutions. When children encounter difficulties and setbacks, the first thing they think of is to seek help from their parents. When children seek help from their parents, if the parents will only teach the children the correct way, instead of letting the children think of solutions themselves, on the one hand, it may cause the children can not think independently, on the other hand, parents lose the good opportunity to communicate with children in education.
The reason why the son doesn't communicate with his parents
1. Parents ignore emotional communication. Now the economic conditions are good, many parents will give their children a lot of material satisfaction, and never communicate with their children emotionally. After a long time, children will feel that their parents will only meet their material needs, and do not understand what they really want, so they will not be willing to communicate with their parents.
2. Never ask for children's ideas. When educating their children, many parents often think that their children are good, so they choose various options for their children, but never ask for their children's opinions.
From dressing, eating and going to a talent training class to filling in a volunteer job search, parents let their children follow their own ideas and never ask their children what they really think, which makes them more reluctant to communicate with parents.
3. Don't care about children's opinions. Although some parents behave better, they often ask their children's opinions and understand their children's thoughts, but they don't take their children's opinions seriously. They continue to go their own way. Over time, children understand that parents' inquiries are actually a passing game, so they themselves don't take it seriously.
Skills of parent-child communication
Turn yourself into a child and integrate with the child. When communicating with children, many parents like to treat children with a scolding and condescending attitude. Children have no playmates at home, which will make children feel a sense of distance and fear from their parents. How can children dare to communicate with their parents or ask questions to their parents under such circumstances?
Work closely with children to understand their thoughts and preferences. One of the most important ways of communication is to chat. Parents should spare time to get along with their children, closely observe what the children are interested in, find out whether he has recently encountered problems, and then talk about the children's ideas and preferences. This will stimulate the children's interest in talking with their parents and promote parent-child relations.
