As children grow older, in addition to their physical development, their psychology is also changing quietly. Children will gradually desire independence, rely on their parents, and want to get rid of their parents' control at the same time, to prove that they have grown up. When children in the family have the following behaviors, parents must pay attention to changing the education method.
What are the manifestations of children's rebellion
1. Impulse. When the child enters the rebellious period, it is very likely that he or she can't control his or her own emotions and will say some extremely aggressive words. Even after quarreling with their parents, they are difficult to calm down their emotions, and some extreme behaviors may occur.
This is because, in their cognition, they have become adults and do not need to tell their parents all their thoughts and behaviors. In the face of nagging and criticism from parents, they are easy to have a sense of resistance.
2. Vanity is strong. After children enter the rebellious period, they are likely to become more and more vain due to the influence of external reasons. We often say that everyone loves beauty. This statement also applies to children. Although they are still young, they have pride and vanity that ordinary people cannot understand. They hope they are beautiful and outstanding at all times.
Once they feel that they have no money and are not dressed as well as others, they will feel unconvinced. Therefore, parents are required to buy better ones for themselves to satisfy their vanity.
3. Puppy love. Puppy love should be the most worrying thing for all parents. When they enter adolescence, many students will affect their studies because of puppy love. Faced with such a situation, neither parents nor teachers know how to solve it.
If you criticize and accuse blindly, it is likely to increase children's rebellious heart. While traumatizing their psychology, parent-child relationship may become more and more estranged.
How to Guide Children's Rebellious Period Correctly
1. Show empathy. Parents can try to understand their views and verify their feelings. Even if you disagree with their views, people have the right to express their inner thoughts. Just imagine, if the opposite is a strange adult, will you stop the other person from continuing? Therefore, be patient and listen to his ideas.
2. Family influence and parental inspiration. Parents should set an example. The role of parents directly affects children's mental health. Parents must reflect on their own personal lifestyle and attitude towards life, pay attention to correcting their bad personality, and provide healthy things for children at any time. Establish a harmonious and happy family atmosphere.
3. Use softness to overcome hardness. Adolescent children originally thought that they had grown up and should not be controlled. Especially in the family, children expect their parents' approval, want to assume certain responsibilities for the family, and want to do something to prove that they have grown up.
Parents should learn to overcome hardness with softness, saying less and doing more. At ordinary times, I care more about children, not only about their learning, but also about their physical health, so that children can feel the warmth of the family and the love of their parents.
What causes children to rebel
1. Always criticize children. Criticism means that you hold a negative attitude towards children's thoughts, experiences, feelings and values. Children often take these criticisms as derogatory remarks. A child who is often criticized and cannot feel love is more likely to become rebellious.
2. Too nagging children. Nagging is that parents repeatedly say something that has been said many times, such as listening carefully in school, etc. Over time, children refuse to listen, or even directly oppose their parents.
3. Threaten children. In particular, threatening rebellious children has no effect. It also makes children feel powerless and resent their parents, making the situation worse and worse. In addition, parents' interruptions, sarcasm, lying to children and other behaviors will also lead to children's rebellious behaviors. Therefore, parents must always be cautious in their words and deeds, and do not act in ways that are meaningless to children's education or may cause adverse effects.
