In daily life, it is inevitable that children lose their temper. Some children lose their temper and their parents will stop their behavior when they preach, but some children will not only not, but also throw things at their parents, which makes some parents very angry and may beat and scold their children. In fact, children lose their temper as long as their parents take appropriate measures to stop their children's temper.
How to teach children to throw things when they lose their temper
1. When parents see a child getting angry and throwing things, they must face the child's emotions rationally. When they are grumpy, parents must set an example for their children and adjust their own mentality first, because most children are usually grumpy and may learn from their parents.
2. When a child is irritable, parents must not make the child more unstable in front of them, otherwise they will not have all the expected effects. Everyone has his own temperament, and so do children, so parents should learn to attach great importance to children when they lose their temper.
Because children also have the right to describe their own emotions, parents should carefully describe the feelings the children need to express at this time, and then when the children calm down, parents go to guide the children correctly.
3. Accept and listen to children. If the child is in a mood, parents should not turn a blind eye to it or feel that it is not a big deal. They should just say a few words casually to send the child away, let alone deliberately stop the child's mood, saying that he should not have such a mood. Accept the children's emotions, give them the opportunity to express themselves, listen to why the children have negative emotions, and what happens.
4. When children throw things, they should be dealt with seriously. When facing these behaviors of children, you should know in your heart that your criticism of children is to criticize his behavior, not the child. So parents need to seriously deal with the behavior of children throwing things.
5. Cultivate children's sense of rules. If it is a matter of principle, you should not spoil children. At this time, parents need to unify standards, listen to their children's ideas patiently, tell them what is wrong and the right way, and cultivate their children's sense of responsibility.
Children lose their temper, which is the wrong way of general parents
1. Compromise and satisfaction immediately. Some parents belong to the type of "material satisfaction immediately after the child cries". As soon as they see the child crying, they immediately compromise and coax the child to say, "Don't cry, I will buy you another can right away."
However, this method might be effective at that time, and the child might stop crying immediately. However, it is easy to raise a child who is always demanding and cannot wait.
When children learn this way to solve problems, they will become more and more angry and self-centered. When they grow up and enter the society, they are easily frustrated.
2. Cold treatment. Many parents will choose this coping style. They thought that if they didn't care about their children, they would leave them alone. When they had cried enough, the matter would be solved naturally. Actually not. Cold treatment can easily make children think they are unlovable and abandoned, which is a great harm to their sense of security.
Over time, children will think: "Bad mood is bad" "I can't say no"... They will either stick to their parents more closely, afraid of being abandoned; Or they become disappointed and indifferent, and begin to suppress their real needs.
How to educate children who always lose their temper
1. Educate children to understand emotions correctly. When a child is happy, ask him why he is happy, and he will say happy. If a child loses his temper and is unhappy, if you ask him why, he can only answer: unhappy, sad. This shows that children cannot correctly understand emotions and describe what emotions are.
To solve this problem, parents can increase the vocabulary they communicate with their children so that they can learn it unconsciously. Moreover, he should read more picture books describing "emotions", so that he can have a basic study.
2. Let children vent their emotions. Bad emotions should not be suppressed in the mind. Finding the right exit is the key to the problem. When a child has negative emotions, we can let him draw, exercise, shout, play, which will not hurt others. Psychologists say that children can vent their dissatisfaction in this way to achieve a state of psychological balance.
