The 12-year-old child has gone through the third rebellious period in his life, so parents must pay attention to controlling their own emotions when they discipline the child, and never beat or scold the child, because violence can not solve the problem, and may even cause the child's rebellious psychology, becoming more difficult to discipline. So, how to educate a 12-year-old daughter who is disobedient?
How to educate a 12-year-old daughter who is disobedient
1. Keep your head cool
When children rebel, their parents will generally be dissatisfied and use their power to suppress their children. In fact, parents at this time should remind themselves to stay calm and communicate with their children after they calm down. When children rebel, their words and behaviors will be like a storm, and they don't know how to control themselves. But their parents are adults, and they should know when to keep calm.
2. Don't always compare your children with others
Many parents always like to compare other people's children with their own children when their children make mistakes, and they will say at the same time: How can you see other people's children be obedient? How love learning, and then look at you! This kind of behavior will really hurt children's self-confidence and self-esteem. If children in the rebellious period will be more resistant, more disobedient to their parents, education will be more difficult.
3. Give children certain rights
You should know that the age of 12 to 18 is the rebellious period of youth. At this time, she has already had her own basic outlook on life, is not willing to completely obey the arrangements of her parents, and will also take their words as "air". If children are strictly disciplined at this stage, their sense of rebellion will only be stronger. Therefore, we need to properly delegate power and give them some freedom at this stage.
4. Listen carefully to the children's views
Take children as their "little friends", and based on appropriate affirmation and praise, don't show contempt for the childish views of children. You can guide children to think, let them find their own mistakes and correct them by themselves. So what we need to do is to communicate more with the child, understand her real thoughts, and accompany her to do things they like. What children of this age need most is to accompany and understand.
5. Avoid nagging children repeatedly
Children aged 12-15 are studying in junior high school. Compared with the learning difficulty in primary school, the difficulty of junior high school is significantly increased, and the burden of schoolwork is also increased. In addition, junior high school students have to face the challenge of high school entrance examination, and the learning pressure is very high. Therefore, children at this age tend to be irritable and anxious. If parents always nag their children and repeatedly urge them to study hard, their children's negative emotions will increase sharply. Not only are they unwilling to communicate with their parents, but they will also face their parents everywhere, and they will also be tired of learning. Therefore, parents should try to avoid repeated nagging when educating children of this age. If you want your child to remember what you said, you can only tell your child one or two times in a serious way. By doing so, you can let your child understand how much parents attach importance to this issue, and also carefully consider the opinions or suggestions put forward by parents.
At the age of 12 or 13, the girl began to rebel, apparently obeying her parents' words, and how to educate as a parent
1. Communicate correctly with children.
We said above that they are children, they are still immature children, we are adults, and we still have some tricks against them. No matter how they argue with us, how they argue with us, how they make a big noise, we are bamboos. We just think they are acting, and we are just critics, so that we will not quarrel with him like children.
After that, it is the right communication to point out their mistakes and areas that need improvement.
Communication is not criticism, but to let them talk about their reasons, and then we point out our opinions on their behavior, so that they can find their own mistakes, correct them, and achieve the effect of moistening things silently.
2. Respect them, treat them as adults, and discuss some matters at home together to make decisions, so that they feel a sense of existence and meet their self-awareness and sense of existence. At the same time, it should also explain whether there should be a sense of responsibility, rights and obligations. Although their ideas have no effect, they also respect them.
3. Now the pressure of learning is too great. As long as children can study hard, they should have a sense of neglect about their achievements. They should only talk about their learning methods and habits instead of their achievements. Everyone knows that haste makes waste. Don't use this language: what about the children of so and so people. Remember that our children are our children. How can we compare with other children. Don't be like my friend's children, who regret when they are depressed.
4. There is cooperation between husband and wife, only men's singles and women's singles, not doubles. One criticism and one coax, but the goal should be the same. When coaxing, the key points should be wrong, which cannot be counterproductive.
What to do with a 12-year-old girl rebelling against her parents
1. Parents should be good imitators
As the saying goes, the child born of a dragon, a phoenix, or a mouse can make a hole. This sentence expresses not only the genetic similarity, but also the family's temper, personality, and even life skills. Therefore, in family education, the behavior of parents is always the most important.
When a child is young, he will unconsciously imitate his parents and learn their behavior, speaking and interpersonal patterns.
2. Do not carry out 'high pressure' control on children
Some parents like to manage their children through 'high pressure'. Not only should every detail of children's behavior be specified in place, but also they especially don't like children contradicting themselves. When children disagree with their own opinions, they can always listen to their parents.
If children live in such a family atmosphere for a long time, they will feel that they cannot be understood and accepted, and even feel resentful. When they are a little older, children will retaliate, deliberately contradict their parents' requirements, and attack their parents through language. Therefore, we must pay attention to this when educating children.
