Most of the reasons why children rebel and disobey are because their parents' education methods are wrong. So at this time, parents must improve their own education methods, not overindulging and indulging children, but should properly let go of children, and communicate with them more in order to make education better. So, what about the disobedient children in the rebellious period?
How to deal with disobedience of rebellious children
1. Control your emotions and admit that children have their own temper
When a child is naughty, parents can try to say: "Are you a little angry now?" "Are you dissatisfied now?" Use your own words to express the child's feelings. Because children, especially those who are young, do not know how to express and vent their emotions correctly, when they are dissatisfied, they will play small and make a fuss. If parents speak out their children's feelings, they will feel understood and cared for, and naturally behave well.
2. Don't beat or scold, choose the correct communication method
Many parents often threaten their children with cruel words. For example, "If you dare to answer back again, you will be spanked". Although children will shrink from fear when they say harsh words, the more frequently this method is used, the faster it will fail. After more threats, children will get used to it. It seems that they are listening to you, but their attention has already drifted away. First, when parents want to educate their children, they should unify their own behavior and language. In addition, when communicating with children, try to use a moderate and deliberative tone.
3. Encourage and recognize children appropriately
Children are eager to be recognized by adults. Even if they are doing something you think is wrong. You'd better do the opposite, first recognize his ideas and practices, and then after his mood calms down, express your opinions and say what you think is the correct approach. That is, "slow down". Give your child some time to recover, and then go to recognize and encourage him, you may receive different results.
4. Let the child try to make decisions by himself
The rebellious children actually have a mentality that they have grown up and can make some decisions by themselves. However, their psychology in the eyes of parents is disobedient and rebellious. Sometimes parents also need to break the fish tank of conventional education, so that children's growth is more possible. Maybe if you let your child try to make decisions, he will not violate or refuse to implement your decisions. Parents should treat the children in the rebellious period as an equal person, rather than a gesture that they are the truth, so that the children will not make too many rebellious behaviors.
What should we do if the children are disobedient during the rebellious period? In a word, controlling their own emotions, admitting that the children have their own temper, not beating and scolding, choosing the right way of communication, properly encouraging and recognizing the children, and letting them try to make decisions on their own will all help to discipline the disobedient children during the rebellious period.
