A 14-year-old middle school student already has the ability to distinguish right from wrong, that is, he knows what is right and what is wrong. However, children at this age have poor self-control and need parents to supervise and guide. What can a 14-year-old middle school student do if he steals money and lies?
What if a 14-year-old middle school student steals money and lies
1. Parents should be gentle and patient
This is a bad habit. You can ask him why he likes to lie and steal money. Slowly guide him with a gentle tone and not harsh, or he will do such things more covertly in the future. When a child starts to correct, it is impossible to change it all at once. He should wait patiently and guide slowly, and then give appropriate encouragement and some small gifts to praise him. The child is 14 years old, and can't fight or scold. The parents can't be aggressive. They can communicate with the child calmly and correctly.
2. Parents should always pay attention to their children's performance in all aspects, make friends with them and respect them
The bad habit of children does not become like this in a day or two. It is accumulated over time and can not be corrected by their parents for a long time. Therefore, it has developed to this point. Children may lack companionship for a long time, and they are unwilling to communicate with adults. As parents, we should realize that it has a lot to do with our parents that children become what they are today. We should establish a "friendship" relationship with children from an early age, put aside adults' lofty attitude, listen to children's opinions and suggestions, pay more attention to children's performance, not just their academic achievements, All aspects of children, including morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor, should be well guided and comprehensively developed.
3. Parents should not worry, communicate well and understand the reason
Don't rush to solve the problem. The child is wrong. As a parent, you should be anxious, but don't be anxious to solve the child's current problems. When the child's mood is stable, talk with the child, ask why the child stole money and lied, and make a decision according to the reason. Don't lie because the child stole money. Parents should immediately scold and scold the child, which will only irritate the child, Even he will not realize that it is wrong to do so, and then he will not take the initiative to correct it. Therefore, parents should keep calm, not be too excited, and let children realize that what they have done is wrong, which is the most important thing for parents to consider.
4. Stop in time
Children steal money in a serious way. Parents should severely criticize and stop it when they first find out, and pay attention to keeping the change and not creating opportunities for children. Parents should never indulge their children just because things are small. "Don't do evil because it is small". We must nip the bad signs in the cradle. Parents must show their attitude in front of their children to make them aware of the seriousness of the problem. Parents should pay more attention to communicate with their children and try their best to persuade them.
What if a 14-year-old middle school student steals money and lies? First, understand the reason, then analyze the specific situation, but still tell the child that it is wrong to do so, let him realize the seriousness of the problem, stop the child's behavior in time, strictly require the child to grow into a healthy person.