Children always like to procrastinate, which is a bad habit formed for a long time. So as parents, we should first reflect on the reasons for children's procrastination. Then find ways and means to change children's procrastination and persevere. Never give up halfway. So, how can children correct their procrastination?
How to correct children's procrastination
1. Parents First Overcome Their Procrastination
The behavior of parents is a mirror of children. Many behaviors of children follow their parents' lead. When parents often procrastinate, the PPT work to be done must be delayed to the last day before action, and friends are always late to go out to see movies, and they always have to eat for a long time while brushing their mobile phones at meals... Then, children will also become procrastinating, and when parents criticize children for procrastination, children will still be unconvinced and will not listen to them at all.
2. Encourage children
Parents should have a pair of eyes that are good at discovering beauty, observe the progress of children's behavior, and encourage and praise children in a timely manner. For example, when you find your child writes more attentively these days, you can praise your child by saying, "In your line of words, there are two more beautiful words than before!" "Your words today are more neat than yesterday."
When you find that your child has been looking at his watch while doing his homework recently, and is trying to speed up his horsepower, you can encourage him to say, "You finished your homework 20 minutes earlier today than yesterday, making progress." "Now you don't need to remind you, you can also finish your homework at 9 o'clock."
Encouragement, not only when the child performs well, but also when the child does not perform so well or even performs badly. The child will definitely use more positive efforts to give back to you.
3. Improve children's concentration
In many cases, the reason why children have no idea of time is that they are not attentive enough to work. They are not only thinking about playing, drinking water, going to the toilet when doing homework, but also not having fun when playing. They sit down and stand up later, moving around without being at ease.
Smart parents, first, try not to disturb children when they do things, so that children can concentrate on doing things well; The second is to guide children slowly, and gradually extend the time for children to focus on one thing. For example, a one-time book reading slowly progresses from 10 minutes at the beginning to 15 minutes and 20 minutes.
4. Get along equally with children
What children desire most is to be friends with their parents, so that they can communicate with each other on an equal footing. If parents not only criticize their children's procrastination, but also review their own procrastination, they will be more receptive to their parents' opinions and more willing to correct their own behavior.
Parents can sign a small contract with their children, and both parties will supervise each other. When one party procrastinates, the other party can point it out directly and accept punishment; When one party does not procrastinate for a month, it can be praised and rewarded accordingly.
The reason for the child's procrastination
1. Lack of good time management awareness
Children's concept of time is relatively vague. For example, children just from kindergarten to primary school have no other homework and tasks in their kindergarten life except playing and playing, so they have not cultivated equal time management.
This is also why many children enter primary school, because their parents did not cultivate their children's management awareness in advance, so children can not quickly cope with the assignments assigned by teachers. They may even have feelings of rejection or even escape because of their first contact with such challenging tasks, which also forms a "procrastination" attitude towards homework.
2. The children's concentration is relatively low
Compared with adults, children's concentration is obviously a problem. They often attract attention because of other big movements. They might have been doing homework, but they will be attracted in the next moment, and then it will be difficult to concentrate on the schoolwork.
For example, I believe that many adults have similar experience, that is, when they just turned on the TV in the living room, the children were still writing homework, but when they heard the sound of the TV, they immediately stopped writing and listened, and lost the energy they had just gathered on homework.
3. Adults give bad examples
Parents' behavior habits are a textbook for children to learn. The behavior mode of adults is seen by children. If adults themselves are procrastinators who like to procrastinate, children will fully accept or imitate the behavior mode of adults, and become a person who is inefficient and does not miss any opportunity to "procrastinate".
Children are procrastinating and want to correct. Parents should be patient with their children and cultivate their good habits and independence. Constant scolding and criticism will only cause pressure on children, but will backfire, repel and disgust them. The effect will be even worse. Parents can slowly guide, encourage and support their children.
