Many parents don't understand the characteristics of junior high school students' children, so they want to communicate with children, but they have no way to start. Although children are gradually mature, they also need guidance from parents. So, how should parents communicate with junior high school students?
How should parents communicate with junior high school students
1. Parents should respect their children
The most common suggestion parents hear when communicating with their children is to respect them. Respect is based on equality. The relationship between parents and children should be a relationship of mutual learning and growth, not a relationship of "discipline". When communicating with children, parents should fully respect their children, "more advice, less command", so that children have psychological feelings.
2. Understand children's emotions
When children make fun of you and complain, and when children trust their parents, parents should first give their children an understanding that can resonate with their children emotionally. Treat children as adults and listen carefully to their views. First of all, recognize their ideas and accept them. It is important to have their own ideas in middle school.
3. Parents need to keep pace with the times
Today's children get information and knowledge from all aspects through various channels like sponges. From astronomy to geography, many new terms appear in the dialogue. But how much do parents know about these new words? How can parents communicate effectively if they don't understand their children's language and thoughts?
This requires our parents to keep pace with the times. Pay more attention to current events, read fashion magazines, know the names of children's favorite pop stars, know important sports competitions, know how to surf the Internet, know current popular words, etc.
Why children are unwilling to communicate with their parents
1. Parents have cheated their children and failed to do what they promised them.
2. When children are young, they personally experience family conflicts, such as parents' disharmony or being beaten and scolded by their parents.
3. Parents like to compare their children with children from other families, set higher goals for their children, and their children's self-esteem will be frustrated if they fail to reach them. Think that parents only have other children in their eyes.
4. The child had some minor frictions at school or with friends, and the parents did not deal with them in a timely and correct manner, which led the child to distrust the parents.
5. In addition to talking about study, parents do not care about their children in their spare time life and entertainment, which makes them feel isolated and depressed.
6. In the long-term life, parents have gradually established a kind of dignity for their children, making them feel that there is a distance between them and their parents. As time goes by, the distance is getting farther and farther.
7. Children hope to get more recognition. In the process of communication with parents at ordinary times, parents show more criticism and negation, which on the one hand frustrates children's self-confidence, and on the other hand alienates children from communication with parents.
How should parents communicate with junior high school students? Children in middle school are in the period of youth rebellion. Many things, unlike those in primary school, like to share with us. At this time, we should treat their problems correctly. Don't put on the airs of parents. We should become friends with him. In this way, he can share his things with you, and we can also treat them correctly.
