The 13 year old child has entered the rebellious period. It is a normal phenomenon that the rebellious psychology appears at this time. Parents must treat it rationally, and do not "play hardball" with the child, because this will not solve the problem, but will destroy the parent-child relationship, so that the child can close the door to communicate with his family. So, what should we do if a 13-year-old child is disobedient?
What to do if a 13-year-old child is disobedient
1. Correctly treat children's adolescence, which is both a challenge and a benefit
For children, adolescence is both a challenge and a benefit. Children in this period are full of all kinds of new ideas. If parents look at children who pursue new things in a positive way, it is a blessing for your children from a previous life.
However, if parents obstruct them and try to replace their children's thinking with their own way of thinking, the communication between the two generations will certainly be full of gunpowder, and then there will be many negative and harmful situations such as "no communication, concealment, isolation". For adolescent children and parents who have experienced adolescence, the key is to recognize the positive role of adolescence, recognize the importance of adolescence, and learn to spend this period smoothly with a positive attitude of acceptance and defeat. Remember, changing your attitude is the beginning of all actions.
2. Don't always compare your children with others
Many parents always like to compare other people's children with their own children when their children make mistakes, and they will say at the same time: How can you see other people's children be obedient? How love learning, and then look at you! This kind of behavior will really hurt children's self-confidence and self-esteem. If children in the rebellious period will be more resistant, more disobedient to their parents, education will be more difficult.
3. Treat different problems differently
Only by understanding the reasons for children's disobedience in different situations, can we really know the children's introverted ideas, and then take the correct suggestions, and the results will be twice as effective with half the effort. It is not that the child is disobedient and faces the roar of the child, which has no effect. Therefore, we must find out the specific reasons for children's disobedience.
4. Communicate well and listen to their inner thoughts
After the age of 13, the child has entered the strongest resistance period in life, and the emotion of refusing to communicate has reached the maximum. A survey shows that 70% of family disputes are caused by misunderstanding caused by poor communication, so it is very important to learn to communicate with children.
At this time, the dialogue with children needs to be calm, respect their own ideas, not extreme, not powerful, so that children feel that they are treated equally. When he does something, don't be eager to reject it. Listen to his ideas first. If it is feasible, let him try it if allowed. Restraint tends to lead to intensification of conflicts. Be more calm and less complaining.
What should we do if a 13-year-old child is disobedient? Parents must not be too anxious or use violence against them at will. Only by keeping calm can we solve the problem effectively.