In many cases, children will choose to lie in order to escape punishment and get what they want. Gradually, they find that lying can bring them many benefits, so they will become more serious and become a "liar king". How to deal with children who often lie?
How to deal with children who often lie
1. Establish close and trusted parent-child relationship
Many children lie because they are afraid of their parents' scolding and punishment. When they feel it is unsafe to tell the truth, they can only avoid problems and protect themselves by lying. For example, some children do not do well in exams and change their scores secretly; I accidentally lost my valuables at home, but shifted the responsibility to others... Lying is actually not a comfortable thing. Many children are nervous and under great psychological pressure when they lie. It is acceptable for them to tell the truth at home. I believe that most children are unwilling to lie. So parents should reflect on whether the way of educating their children is too strict? If something has happened, you can ask the child "why are you afraid to tell me the truth", identify with the child's fear and anxiety, and repair the parent-child relationship.
2. Don't ask "trap questions"
On the one hand, many parents want their children to be honest, on the other hand, they always ask their children some questions that will lead them to lie. That is to say, sometimes we already know that the child has made a mistake, but we still pretend not to know it, and pretend to ask the child, expecting them to give us a satisfactory answer. But usually they will be disappointed, and when children find that the parents are "platitudes", it will destroy the trust between parents and children. Instead, focus on solving problems. When you find that your child has not finished his homework on time, don't say "Have you finished your homework?", but say "Mom sees that your homework has not been finished, but it is very late now. When can you finish it?"
3. Identify whether the child is lying
Sometimes children do not intentionally lie, but imagine in an unconstrained way. For example, children say: "Mom, I saw a horse flying in the sky." "Mom, I saw Santa Claus." This is a manifestation of children's imagination. Parents can't kill their children and label them as "liars", which is easy to bring pressure to children, Don't dare to say what you think easily.
4. Set an example
Setting an example is the most important thing in education. It is said that parents are a mirror of children, so most of children's behaviors are learned by imitating us. Therefore, we should not lie in general. We should be frank with everyone and not leave a negative impact on children. Especially when you do something wrong, you must seriously reflect on it, realize your mistakes, and set a good example for your children. Let them understand that mistakes are not terrible, but the terrible thing is to avoid them.
How to solve the problem of children who often lie? Children often lie. Parents must reflect on whether there is a problem with their own education methods, and then set an example for children to teach them to be frank with others.