Adolescent girls sometimes have puppy love. At this time, parents need correct guidance. If they do not give correct guidance at this time, children may be destroyed. Therefore, it is very important to guide children correctly. So, what about the daughter's puppy love and unwillingness to go to school?
How to deal with daughter's puppy love and unwillingness to go to school
1. Be a good teacher and good friend for children, and do not aggravate conflicts
Young girls in a period of psychological closure can expose their privacy, which just provides us with educational opportunities. Parents should be good teachers and friends to win their trust. Don't regard puppy love as a scourge. It is a natural expression of human emotions. By talking about life, setting up ideals, talking about morality and learning, we can guide children well and answer their questions.
2. Trust children
When parents find that children's learning is affected by puppy love, they should calmly accept the reality and not specifically blame the children. Communicate more with children. Only by building a sense of trust with children can we gradually solve problems.
3. Timely communicate with schools and children
Keep the closest contact with the school. When children have puppy love, parents should neither relax, nor make a fuss, nor be embarrassed. Keep close cooperation with the school in time, put down face, actively communicate, cooperate with teachers, and problems will be solved.
4. Accompany children more
Some children have puppy love because of the lack of affection in the family. They are eager to use another relationship to make up for the lack of affection in the original family. As the saying goes, it is a lack of love. They should use the love of the opposite sex to feel the value of being needed, feel loved, and feel that they are needed and loved. So no matter how busy parents are, they can't ignore the spiritual education and emotional companionship of their children. In adolescence, parents need to accompany and guide them more. To make children feel loved, they can focus on learning without other love to fill the gap.
5. Tell children about the dangers of puppy love
It is wrong for children to know that puppy love not only affects their studies, but also affects their own emotions, because children in puppy love are often subject to emotional fluctuations due to emotional bumps. Not only that, puppy love will also spend a lot of time, money and energy. Children spend too much time on puppy love, so that they delay their studies, resulting in a decline in performance. So parents must tell their children about the dangers of puppy love and let them know that the primary task of students is to learn.
6. Cultivate children's sense of responsibility
Parents can educate their children from the perspective of responsibility and let them think more about each other. puppy love is likely to have a great impact on each other's mood and life, and even on their future. In addition, we should educate him to think more about his family. As one of the family members, he should also bear certain family responsibilities.
What should we do if our daughters are reluctant to go to school because of puppy love, contradicting their parents, and being bored with school? These are normal manifestations of adolescence. As parents, the first thing we should do is to understand and care for our children, and tell girls how to protect themselves. The most important thing is not to hurt girls. As a mother, we should pay more attention to girls' physical and mental health.