When children grow up, it is inevitable that they will become rebellious and tired of school. At this time, many parents often choose to fight with their children, reprimand their children or even fight with them, which not only encourages their children's weariness of school, but also is not conducive to communication with children. So, what should we do in the face of rebellious and school weary parents?
What should parents do in the face of their children's rebellion and school weariness
1. Find the reason why children are rebellious and tired of school
Parents should first realize that treason and school weariness are mutually combined, which requires parents to correctly understand their children's emotions. Rebellion is only due to the growth of children's independent consciousness when they grow up. At this time, children are generally bored with learning because of excessive demands from parents and schools. Therefore, parents should not only look at the surface of the problem and feel that the child is wrong in doing so, but also see the deep reasons why the child is rebellious and tired of school, so that they can really solve the problem.
2. Reasonably channel children's emotions
When children are rebellious and tired of school, parents should not worry. First, they should talk calmly with their children. Because children have rebellious consciousness, parents should respect their children's views and let them know their own emotions. Rebellion is the performance of children, and school weariness is the emotion of children. Parents can ask their children what they know about this matter and help them sort out their thoughts. If children can really think about it, their bad emotions will be alleviated.
3. Don't expect too much from children
Children are tired of learning, which may be due to the pressure of learning. Nowadays, education competition is fierce, and children's physical strength and energy are consumed in school. If they have to face a stressful environment when they return home, the consequences are unimaginable. Therefore, parents should also pay attention not to give their children too much expectation. If parents project their expectations on their children, they will become unable to extricate themselves once they fail, and will be overwhelmed by pressure over time, thus becoming bored with school.
4. Cultivate children's interests
Learning is boring for everyone, so parents should help children find what they are really interested in, and help children develop, so that children can work and rest together and disperse the pressure from learning. People will have their own interests, such as letting children explore an interest beyond school subjects, which can be art or sports. This can not only improve the children's self-confidence, but also let the children not pay too much attention to learning and not cause too much pressure on themselves.
5. Divert the child's attention
Parents should also learn to divert their children's attention in the face of rebellious and school weary children. For example, take the children to eat a delicious meal, or let the children rest for a period of time, take the children to travel, and so on. Let children broaden their vision and mind under the influence of nature, understand the vastness of the world, and realize that human beings are insignificant in the world, then the negative emotions in their hearts will naturally disappear.
What should parents do in the face of their children's rebellious and school weary? The key lies in emotion. Only when parents truly understand their children's emotions, understand and accept them, and become their listeners, can children truly feel respect and be more willing to communicate with parents. When the communication can go on smoothly, as long as the parents guide the children step by step, I believe that the children will eventually follow their parents' advice.