At the age of 14, children have entered a period of rebellion. At this time, the most obvious performance of children is that they are disobedient, easily lose their temper, ignore their parents' care, and even do things, which makes many parents very worried. So, how can a 14-year-old child be disciplined for disobedience?
How to discipline a 14-year-old child who is disobedient
1. Parents should learn to listen
When children express their ideas to you, parents should listen patiently and not criticize the children after listening. If you want to enter the children's psychology, you should listen to and communicate with them more. Appear as a friend, which is easier for children to accept.
2. Learn to understand children
Everyone has come from this age, so we should fully understand that some of the children's behaviors are due to the hormonal changes that have led to some psychological changes. If parents are using the authority of parents or some more extreme ideas to educate children at this time, then it will naturally have some adverse effects, So we should learn to understand children, understand their inner thoughts, and give them affirmation and encouragement!
3. Give power to children
After entering the rebellious period of youth, children are particularly eager to be recognized and respected by the outside world. Therefore, parents should pay attention to delegating various rights to their children to help them transition from ignorance to maturity. Children in this period of time control are eager to have their own small world. Therefore, parents should not make their own decisions. They should arrange their children's time according to their own wishes. For unreasonable arrangements, parents should make suggestions in a deliberative manner, and should not completely deny children.
4. Achieve equal dialogue
Equality is not only verbal, but also in all aspects of life. When parents talk about children's opinions and family issues, they may want to let children participate in the discussion. Sometimes, children's words will make adults see. Similarly, the thinking of adults also affects children.
5. Changing educational methods
In many cases, the way of children's discipline should be changed from time to time. For example, when I was young, only parents spoke and children listened; After high school, you should try two-way communication and listen to the children's suggestions. Once it is found that a certain method does not work, change the method at any time and continue to test until an effective method is found.
6. Learn to give children positive praise and encouragement
The disobedient children are eager to be recognized by others, especially those from their parents. Parents' affirmation is the most effective support for children, so parents should pay attention to giving children timely and positive praise and encouragement. Increase children's self-confidence and self-identity. At the same time, we should pay attention to avoid training children before others. We should start to pay attention to saving face for children, protect their self-esteem, and do not be unscrupulous.
14 year old children are disobedient and how to discipline. Most of their rebellions are due to lack of communication. No matter how old the child is, a face-to-face communication is very important for parents and children. Let's learn the art of communication, communicate with children in harmony, really understand children, and believe that children will become clever and sensible.