Qiao Xuan: It is recorded in the book of the Later Han Dynasty that three people kidnapped his ten year old son and came to extort money. Qiao Xuan refused to give it. The officers and soldiers rushed here, afraid of hurting his son, did not dare to do anything. Instead, Qiao Xuan himself "ordered the soldiers to enter, so he attacked, and Xuanzi died." This is a negative example of not loving his son, but Qiao Xuan was not reluctant to give up the money, but refused to grow the arrogance of bandits. Qiao Xuan asked the court to announce to the world: "Anyone who has a hostage will be killed at the same time. You can't redeem the treasure and open a traitor's path." Since then, no one dares to take the risk of kidnappings. It has to be said that Qiao Xuan's credit.
Zheng Xuan: Zheng Xuan has only one son. When he was old, Zheng Xuan wrote a "ring book" full of family feelings. He had high expectations for this son. But soon the only son Zheng Yien was killed by the yellow scarf in order to save Kong Rong. It can be imagined that the old Zheng Xuan felt sad.
"Family matters are as big as they are small, and you are the only one who has ever lived together..." - Zheng Xuan's "Jiezi Book"
Dong Zhuo: The Annals of the Three Kingdoms Sima Lang records that during the turmoil of Dong Zhuo, Sima Lang was going to take his family away from Luoyang and was arrested. Dong Zhuo looked at the young Sima Lang and sighed, "Qing is the same age as my dead son, and how old they are!" In a short sentence, Dong Zhuo expressed his deep yearning for his son who died early. If one of Dong Zhuo's sons could live up to the age of devoting to the emperor, would he "swear to be father and son" with Lv Bu? History may change.
Kong Rong: The second piece of Miscellaneous Poems is about the pain of his son's death. It is almost colloquial, expressing his feelings directly, especially touching.
To see off new visitors far away is to return at the end of the year. At the beginning, I hope to love my son, but my wife and concubine are sad to others. The sun has already hidden its glory. The solitary grave is in the northwest. I often read that you are late. When I go to the ruins, I see artemisia and wei. The white bone returns to the yellow spring, and the body flies by the dust. I don't know my father in life, but who I am after death. A lonely soul swims in the twilight, wandering in peace. I will pursue my life if I want to pursue it. When I look up, I feel sad. Life has its own destiny, but hate birthday.
Liu Yan: After painstaking efforts and hardships, he finally became the local emperor in Yizhou. He could have enjoyed his old age, but he lost his two sons, Liu Fan and Liu Dan, because he joined forces with Ma Teng to attack Li Xuan. "They both hurt their sons and felt registered disasters. In the first year of Xingping, they died of carbuncle." It was obvious that they would have suffered if they were alive, I'm afraid Yizhou is another scene.
Cao Cao: The death of Cao Ang, Cao Cao's eldest son, was not only heartbreaking. Madam Ding, who raised Cao Ang, was even more upset. "Ding often said," I will never remember killing my son! So I cried without discipline. When the Emperor Taizu arrived, he stroked his back and said, 'Let me go home together!' The madam ignores, and should not. Taizu, however, walked and stood outside. He said, 'If you have nothing, you can be evil!' Therefore, the Taizu said, 'The true secret is true.' Therefore, if he wants to marry his family, his family will not dare. "
In fact, Cao Cao's own grief was probably no less than that of Mrs. Ding. "The late Taizu was sick and sleepy, and he could not afford to worry about it. He sighed," I have never been disappointed by my intentions before and after. If I die and have a spirit, Zi Xiuruo will ask, 'Where is my mother?' "(When Cao Ang came down, he asked where my mother is. How can I answer him?) After reading the two paragraphs of Wei Lue, Cao Cao is just like the husband and father of ordinary people.
Cao Chong, another beloved son of Cao Cao, died at the age of 13. "The Emperor Taizu asked for an order. He was very sad to die soon. The Emperor Wen spoke broadly of the Emperor Taizu, who said, 'This is my misfortune, but you are lucky to be Cao.' His words shed tears. In order to hire the dead daughter of the Zhen family to be buried together with her, he gave her the seal of a riding captain, and ordered the Marquis Wan to accept Chong as his son Cong." According to the Three Kingdoms Biography of Bing Yuan, Cao Cao hoped to be buried with Bing Yuan's dead daughter before, Bing Yuan said "disrespect", but Cao Cao didn't change his mind. He found Zhen again. It can be seen that Cao Cao didn't care about "etiquette" for his son.
Yang Biao: Cao Cao's own son died and was sad, but others did not know how many sons he had killed. After killing Yang Xiu, "Cao Cao saw the young man and asked, 'Why are you so thin
A more detailed content is in Cao Cao's Letter to the First Lieutenant Yang Biao: "It is not unlucky to mourn Chu together when you miss Qing's father's death. I will present you with two brocade and fur collars..." At the same time, Mrs. Bian's Letter to the First Lieutenant's Wife Yuan: "When you miss Chu, you will not win. If you are tolerant, you will see forgiveness. So you can send a basket of clothes..."
Yang Biao wrote back: "Children are stubborn, and they often think that they should be defeated. They are gracious, and have committed crimes to this day. When they hear about it, they are cruel! Looking at the gifts from others, they will be more sorrowful and afraid." Mrs. Yuan wrote back: "Although the road is far away, they will not be submerged for long. They will sigh and cherish the memory of the mountains. Children are sparse, and they will find themselves guilty. It will be painful to remember! There are many gifts from the Ming government, and the gift is more important. It is not suitable to accept the gift, but to pay the letter. " Although they are afraid of Cao Cao, the old couple have tried to restrain themselves, but the sense of grief and resentment in the two books is still like a torrent of water
Ma Chao: "On the first day of the year, we planted a family that lived longer than Chao. Chao beat his chest and vomited blood, saying, 'Close a hundred people. Once we have the same fate, we will meet with each other today.' Later, we asked for troops from Lu, and wanted to take Liangzhou to the north. Lu sent them there, but it was not profitable.... Lin Wu said on the last day, 'There are more than 200 ministers who have been punished by Meng De, but we should follow the younger brother Dai as the successor of the micro school of blood and food. We should trust your majesty deeply, and there is no answer.'" ——Three Kingdoms: Biography of Ma Chao
Seeing these words, Ma Chao is not indifferent to his family. But how many sons did Ma Chao kill others? Kong Rong once praised Wei Duan's son: "Unexpectedly, the twin pearls are very precious when they are near the old clam." When Wei Duan was still alive, Ma Chao killed his son Wei Kang and lost his precious "pearl".
Xia Houyuan: "Wei Lue said," When Yan and Yu were in turmoil, Yuan was hungry and tired. He abandoned his young son and died his brother's orphan daughter alive. "In early years, in order to save his brother's daughter, he gave up his own flesh and blood. It was heartbreaking. What's more hateful is that the orphan daughter was robbed by Zhang Fei before she reached adulthood.
Xia Houyuan, the third son of Xia Houyuan, died early at the age of 18, and Xia Hourong, the fifth son, died in Dingjun Mountain with his father at the age of 13. Both of them were talented men, and it was a pity that they died.
Wang Lang: When writing a letter to Xu Jing, there was a saying: "How many men and women are there today? How many years are there? One man and one woman have been lost in a servant company. Now there are two men: the eldest son, Su, was born in Kuaiji when he was 29 years old, and the youngest child was born in Kuaiji when he was over age. He was in the presence of a bookworm, and he remembered Xu Jing." Originally, Xu Jing was recruited at the order of Cao Cao. As a result, he wrote, and Lao Wang's own grief flowed out.
Xu Jing: The Three Kingdoms Biography of Fei Yi mentioned that Xu Jing lost his son and ministers went to mourn. In fact, Xu Jing had already experienced this before. In order to escape the war chaos in Jiangdong caused by Sun Ce, Xu Jing and his relatives and friends traveled far to make friends with each other, Even famous people are as cheap as dogs.
Gu Yong: It is recorded in the New Words of the World that Gu Shao, Gu Yong's son, was playing chess when the news of his death came, "Pinching his palms with his paws, and blood stained the mattress. After the guests were scattered, Fang sighed, 'It's no longer the height of Yanling, so how can I be blamed for losing my sight?' So he broke his heart and mourned with calm color." It means that how can I cry blind because of losing my son like Zixia, and be blamed by Zengzi? Under such circumstances, I would not like to admire or sympathize with him if I tried to overcome the pain of losing my son rather than vent it.
Cao Zhi: "Jin Hu Mourning": Jin Hu, the first daughter of the rest. Although I cannot speak, I have already given color to my bosom friend. I was born in nineteen ten and turned into a day ago. This is my speech. The words said, "I was nurtured when I was swaddling in swaddling clothes, and I still smiled when I was young.". If you don't die all the year round, you won't be punished by the emperor. Believe in my sin, and pity the weak son's innocence. Go to your parents' embrace and destroy the tiny bones in the dirt. As time goes by, when will you live.
Sorrow for Traveling Girls: Traveling girls are in autumn and finally in the first summer. In three years, the second son died frequently. The order of God is hard to cut; Or Huafa may suffer disasters all the year round, or pregnancy. Feeling the last part of sorrow, the new disaster comes again! If you apply it in the morning, you will feel better than Chen Lu. Feeling that the deceased is not chasing, and feeling of regret is suddenly lost. The sky is high and has no rank. Who should hate it!
In addition to mourning his two daughters, Cao Zhi also wrote a "Zhongyong Mourning" for Cao Pi: "Cao Jie wrote Zhongyong, the son of the prince of Wei. He was born in March and died in May..." Although the text is more gorgeous, it is far less touching than those two articles.
